Does anyone ever feel like they’ve spent so long thinking/trying to figure out if they were the opposite sexual orientation (in my case; a straight female, trying to figure out if I am gay) that now it’s weird to think you’re not what you didn’t want to be.

Sexual Orientation OCD

M H

Date posted: 4y

Thinking if u r is the compulsion an its making it worse as it sinks u deeper and deeper into the cycle of trying to figure it out and all its going to do is make u think u really are gay. I was like this too. The more I thought about it or gave in to an intrusive thought or feeling, the more I felt like I was homosexual but once i stopped with all the thinking over something that wasnt true it went away FAST. I thank God I got out of that vicious cycle.

anon1234

Date posted: 4y

Yes, you are right. It’s the compulsion that’s driving me deeper into this cycle. Can I ask, what Reponse Prevention Message you found most useful in stopping this compulsion? For example, was it “maybe…maybe not?”

M H

Date posted: 4y

@anon1234 I didnt use the maybe maybe not 😂 because I know that I am straight despite how confused I was. What happened to me is that I would do the compulsion and it wouldn't stop but wen I wouldnt compulse, I found that the ocd was cooling down. I would mess it up tho by going back to thinking about it. So then I thought what if I just ignore it. So I did and I got out of the cycle and the thoughts stopped coming. So the message i used is: ignore it 😂

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