- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
@Ope don‘t beat yourself up for being triggerd, like I already said, we didn‘t pick this horrible disorder and you‘re super brave for showing up everyday! Keep fighting <3
Also if you're one of the people who got triggered by me, I'm so so sorry. Please know that I support you and what you're going through. It's valid and tough and you're so brave and strong. I now see that I need to make my own separate space for as a SOOCD sufferer in the queer community. I've deleted a few past comments to avoid anyone else having negative reactions to them. Love you all and I've taken your feedback to heart. 🥰
@Ope Hey don't worry! Sometimes I feel invalidated when people act like comp-het isn't real, but I should still be aware of when my words are possibly upsetting and I wasn't. I didn't see your comment as "freaking out" I saw it as a triggered person informing me you were triggered so I could be more aware for next time, and I genuinely appreciate that.
@Ope I think it's a tough situation where our OCD reassurances almost invalidate each other. You're so valid too. Sending all the ❤
Hi there, I‘m straight with soocd but I just wanted to thank you for being so kind and understanding <3 it breaks my Heart that you feel like you don‘t have a space to share your story. It shouldn‘t be this way. Ocd is alredy so isolating, this Community should be a Safe Space for everyone. I saw the threat you‘re talking about and I won‘t lie, I also got triggerd but I just wanted you to know that you‘re so appreciated and welcome to share your Story on here and I’m pretty sure all the other soocd People would agree on that. It is not your fault that we all suffer from this disorder! Anywawys I Hope you find some People with similar experineces because I know it’s a game changer to meet someone you can truly relate to. All the best for your recovery!
All the best for you too! We have opposite sides of the same coin, it sucks that we end up triggering each other. You're amazing and I wish you all the best!
Anyway, if you're not straight and have SOOCD, or grew up loving your birth gender but now have TOCD, if you'd like to exchange social media or numbers or something I'd be down. This app is not the place for me to be sharing
Oh and I also just rememberd: there is a person called „Soup“ on here and they identify as a queer as far as I know and I think they had SOOCD too. Maybe you they are open to Talk to you about their struggles with comphet and SOOCD
@Heleni Ugh sorry for all my typos 🙈
@Heleni Thanks for letting me know!
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Yeah, I no longer feel comfortable with queerness largely due to my gender identity OCD
Is anyone here actually gay and has/had sexuality or religious ocd? I don't have it at all haha I'm a lesbian myself without socd or religious ocd but I'm just curious: what's it like and how did you deal with the whole "biggest fear coming true" thing?
I wouldn’t really say I have SO-OCD, but it manifests in some areas of my TOCD. Like if I see a woman for example my thoughts will go “what if I like her but as a man?” like my thoughts say I’m a straight man instead of a straight woman. And it’s really bothering me. If I see an attractive woman my brain will re-wire and imagine myself as a man looking at an attraction woman and it gets super uncomfortable that I have to like shake my head and say “no no no no no” multiple times to get the thought out. I know that counts as a compulsion but it’s hard to not do it because it’s so triggering. Now I don’t mind if I like women, however I’m really scared that I’m actually a straight man who likes women (or at least a bisexual man, considering I like men) and I hate it because I don’t want to be a man. Like I’ll think of my desired relationship as a woman dating a man but my OCD will switch it up to me being the man dating the woman, which is the opposite of what I want. I don’t want to be a man at all and I don’t want to date a woman, both of those are the opposite of my desires, but I’m still so scared. I’ll accept myself if I actually like women and am a bisexual woman, however I heard that being bisexual can mean being trans which scares me (for the record it was said in reddit by a sub which is mainly focused on a pseudoscientific phenomenon, that is still believed by the members to be true, so it’s definitely not a trustworthy statement, but my OCD will use anything to work against me) Does anyone here relate a little? 🥲
Hello everyone, I just wanted to share a part of my journey that I’m struggling with right now. I’ve been diagnosed with ocd and while this is not my first subtype, ROCD and so ocd have definitely been the ones I’ve been struggling with the most. For context I have a boyfriend who I love very much and am terrified of loosing. That’s probably what ocd latched onto. The so-ocd especially is tricky because I’ve come to acknowledge that I am bisexual. Don’t worry I didn’t “discover” this through ocd, I’ve always known and it’s been in the back of my mind way before ocd, I had just never really directly acknowledged it because romantically I just always leaned towards men. The thing my ocd latched onto is “what if you are actually a lesbian and don’t know it yet and will have to leave your partner or are lying to your partner or end up leading him on” The thing is, I don’t have much experience with women except kissing my female best friend once, which didn’t feel special or made me have romantic feelings for her. I’ve always seeked men more actively than women and didn’t feel like I was gonna miss out if I get into a serious relationship with a man before having had more experience. I just know that I can be sexually attracted to women as well. But now that I’m in this beautiful relationship I’m terrified of getting it wrong or having missed something about myself or being scared that I’m actually a lesbian and have been lying to myself all along. I’m not seeking reassurance, just wanting to share and maybe someone else is going through something similar? If so I’d be so grateful to know I’m not alone. I love my boyfriend dearly and i really hope we will work out in the long run.
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