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Don’t settle for that. Find another therapist who will help you treat HOCD as HOCD. Whether or not you’re bisexual is not important to getting the right treatment.
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Thank you for the advice. I might email the treatment place to see if that’s normal.
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@Anon7 Of course. Do what makes you comfortable.
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@OCDumb >:( Thank you. I didn’t know if what he said seems weird because of anxiety or legitimately seems off
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@Anon7 Right, I understand.
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It does make me anxious. I do not think I am bisexual. He said to see if being bisexual would be something is something that would fit with you or something. I hope I’m explaining it right
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Its probably just subtle erp to trigger you and sit with it, then habituate with it
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Not as easy but you are not your thoughts
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@RememberWhoYouAre. I hope that’s what he’s doing
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@Ope Thank you 😊
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She said I’m sorry that was way too soon and triggering to you.
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@Ope Thank you. I hope so. I’ve just been dealing with a ton of homework from my internship. I start next month on my internship. The homework plus the ocd has me stressed out almost all day. I think a new better therapist will help though.
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@Ope I’m sorry. I know it’s horrible
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Possibly. But this is only my third session. He’s still trying to figure out my diagnoses
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Treats ocd, Tourette’s PTSD and ocd spectrum disorders. He is a member of the international ocd foundation.
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Ahhh I see makes more sense. Well what do you feel and want to do? Did he explain why to do that?
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Search your core values. Write them down. Ask the therapist what specific homework he recommends for this.
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Thank you.
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The owner?
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@hocdgirl No she didn’t. She just apologized
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@hocdgirl Maybe. But it was so early for that. The owner did acknowledge it was way too soon for me. I did switch therapists
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@hocdgirl I know the triggering will come down the line but I’ll be better prepared. Are you in therapy too?
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@hocdgirl I get embarrassed too. But ive found it helps to tell everything so they know what you’re going through
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Consider avoiding the pornography, not on the basis of compulsive avoidance but because it is a fact that habitually watching pornography can desensitize you to sexual imagery, healthy sexual relationships and in some cases increase feelings of shame and isolation which often leads to stress in healthy relationships. It’s not moralizing to avoid something demoralizing. Continuous use of pornographic imagery can complicate escalating ERP.
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Agree
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Is this NOCD therapy?
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Nope
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@Anon7 Welp that explains it. Also u need find someone that only specializes in OCD
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@RememberWhoYouAre. That is one of his specialties though. So I don’t know what to think
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@Anon7 What else does he do? Also i have heard from OCDstories podcast is that u need to find a person who only does OCD not someone who does a little bit of both
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A local anxiety center in Chicagoland I switched therapists yesterday.
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@Ope Thank you. It did trigger me a lot My ocd had gotten worse since then.
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@Ope Thank you so much. I’m glad I made the choice to switch yesterday. It’s still the same place but I told the owner and she was very nice.
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Can sexual orientation ocd make you act on your fears and make you have same sex experiences ever and then after the experience realize that’s not what you are or want?
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?
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