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Don’t settle for that. Find another therapist who will help you treat HOCD as HOCD. Whether or not you’re bisexual is not important to getting the right treatment.
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Thank you for the advice. I might email the treatment place to see if that’s normal.
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@Anon7 Of course. Do what makes you comfortable.
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@OCDumb >:( Thank you. I didn’t know if what he said seems weird because of anxiety or legitimately seems off
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@Anon7 Right, I understand.
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It does make me anxious. I do not think I am bisexual. He said to see if being bisexual would be something is something that would fit with you or something. I hope I’m explaining it right
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Its probably just subtle erp to trigger you and sit with it, then habituate with it
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Not as easy but you are not your thoughts
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@RememberWhoYouAre. I hope that’s what he’s doing
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@Ope Thank you 😊
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She said I’m sorry that was way too soon and triggering to you.
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@Ope Thank you. I hope so. I’ve just been dealing with a ton of homework from my internship. I start next month on my internship. The homework plus the ocd has me stressed out almost all day. I think a new better therapist will help though.
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@Ope I’m sorry. I know it’s horrible
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Possibly. But this is only my third session. He’s still trying to figure out my diagnoses
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Treats ocd, Tourette’s PTSD and ocd spectrum disorders. He is a member of the international ocd foundation.
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Ahhh I see makes more sense. Well what do you feel and want to do? Did he explain why to do that?
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Search your core values. Write them down. Ask the therapist what specific homework he recommends for this.
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Thank you.
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The owner?
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@hocdgirl No she didn’t. She just apologized
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@hocdgirl Maybe. But it was so early for that. The owner did acknowledge it was way too soon for me. I did switch therapists
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@hocdgirl I know the triggering will come down the line but I’ll be better prepared. Are you in therapy too?
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@hocdgirl I get embarrassed too. But ive found it helps to tell everything so they know what you’re going through
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Consider avoiding the pornography, not on the basis of compulsive avoidance but because it is a fact that habitually watching pornography can desensitize you to sexual imagery, healthy sexual relationships and in some cases increase feelings of shame and isolation which often leads to stress in healthy relationships. It’s not moralizing to avoid something demoralizing. Continuous use of pornographic imagery can complicate escalating ERP.
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Agree
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Is this NOCD therapy?
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Nope
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@Anon7 Welp that explains it. Also u need find someone that only specializes in OCD
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@RememberWhoYouAre. That is one of his specialties though. So I don’t know what to think
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@Anon7 What else does he do? Also i have heard from OCDstories podcast is that u need to find a person who only does OCD not someone who does a little bit of both
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A local anxiety center in Chicagoland I switched therapists yesterday.
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@Ope Thank you. It did trigger me a lot My ocd had gotten worse since then.
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@Ope Thank you so much. I’m glad I made the choice to switch yesterday. It’s still the same place but I told the owner and she was very nice.
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I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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Hello everyone, I just wanted to share a part of my journey that I’m struggling with right now. I’ve been diagnosed with ocd and while this is not my first subtype, ROCD and so ocd have definitely been the ones I’ve been struggling with the most. For context I have a boyfriend who I love very much and am terrified of loosing. That’s probably what ocd latched onto. The so-ocd especially is tricky because I’ve come to acknowledge that I am bisexual. Don’t worry I didn’t “discover” this through ocd, I’ve always known and it’s been in the back of my mind way before ocd, I had just never really directly acknowledged it because romantically I just always leaned towards men. The thing my ocd latched onto is “what if you are actually a lesbian and don’t know it yet and will have to leave your partner or are lying to your partner or end up leading him on” The thing is, I don’t have much experience with women except kissing my female best friend once, which didn’t feel special or made me have romantic feelings for her. I’ve always seeked men more actively than women and didn’t feel like I was gonna miss out if I get into a serious relationship with a man before having had more experience. I just know that I can be sexually attracted to women as well. But now that I’m in this beautiful relationship I’m terrified of getting it wrong or having missed something about myself or being scared that I’m actually a lesbian and have been lying to myself all along. I’m not seeking reassurance, just wanting to share and maybe someone else is going through something similar? If so I’d be so grateful to know I’m not alone. I love my boyfriend dearly and i really hope we will work out in the long run.
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