matt9876
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- 4y
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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I've tried that, but I realized its a compulsion to get rid of my anxiety and give me certainty. No matter how much you tell yourself you're the sexuality you identify with OCD will not care
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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I assume you have HOCD as i do, so also "coming out" to a family member or friend will not help, as I have done that as well in a rough moment 😂
matt9876matt9876
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@alexisrae1999 Lol! Thanks for letting me know. Im 3 months in and i don't know how stop it. Scaring me alot
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@matt9876 Ahh that's nothing, start treatment while you've caught it in the early stages. I wish I would've tried ERP sooner, it wouldve saved me a lot of time and stress :(
matt9876matt9876
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@alexisrae1999 I feel like i've rushed into it, i'm starting to think that i have false attractions. I used to careless about the topic a few weeks ago until i fully relapsed. What do you think is the best exposure examples for me?
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@matt9876 Hmm, well I'd say only you can decide what the best exposures for you would be, as you know your specific triggers. I'd say probably watching a show or movie that highlights gay couples (like Glee, or that broke back mountain movie with jake gyllenhall) could be a good place to start. But the best thing you can do is when you get an intrusive thought--accept it as a thought, feel the anxiety and let it pass. With HOCD you're probably going to be actively triggered all day every day, so it gives you a lot of ERP potential :)
Southwest2016!Southwest2016!
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Tried as well. Just made it worse
Mak46Mak46
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I did that too and even told my one friend. It made me feel relieved for a little bit but I think more from the fact that I thought I came to a conclusion finally. Then later that day I went back into the cycle of but what if
krisblisskrisbliss
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If your fear is that you’re bi, then yes an erp technique would be accepting that you might be bi. And you’ll get anxious but you have to be determined and stick to the erp. I’ve worked on my sexual orientation ocd and erp made a difference. It doesn’t really bother me anymore
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