matt9876
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- 4y
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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- 4y
I've tried that, but I realized its a compulsion to get rid of my anxiety and give me certainty. No matter how much you tell yourself you're the sexuality you identify with OCD will not care
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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I assume you have HOCD as i do, so also "coming out" to a family member or friend will not help, as I have done that as well in a rough moment š
matt9876matt9876
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@alexisrae1999 Lol! Thanks for letting me know. Im 3 months in and i don't know how stop it. Scaring me alot
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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- 4y
@matt9876 Ahh that's nothing, start treatment while you've caught it in the early stages. I wish I would've tried ERP sooner, it wouldve saved me a lot of time and stress :(
matt9876matt9876
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@alexisrae1999 I feel like i've rushed into it, i'm starting to think that i have false attractions. I used to careless about the topic a few weeks ago until i fully relapsed. What do you think is the best exposure examples for me?
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@matt9876 Hmm, well I'd say only you can decide what the best exposures for you would be, as you know your specific triggers. I'd say probably watching a show or movie that highlights gay couples (like Glee, or that broke back mountain movie with jake gyllenhall) could be a good place to start. But the best thing you can do is when you get an intrusive thought--accept it as a thought, feel the anxiety and let it pass. With HOCD you're probably going to be actively triggered all day every day, so it gives you a lot of ERP potential :)
Southwest2016!Southwest2016!
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- 4y
Tried as well. Just made it worse
Mak46Mak46
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I did that too and even told my one friend. It made me feel relieved for a little bit but I think more from the fact that I thought I came to a conclusion finally. Then later that day I went back into the cycle of but what if
krisblisskrisbliss
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If your fear is that youāre bi, then yes an erp technique would be accepting that you might be bi. And youāll get anxious but you have to be determined and stick to the erp. Iāve worked on my sexual orientation ocd and erp made a difference. It doesnāt really bother me anymore
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- 21w
Questionsā¦ I donāt want reassurance just advice
Iāve tried accepting the uncertainty, Iāve accepted I may be gay, bi or still straight. Iāve tried doing ERP myself to the best I can. When I accept that Iām gay or bi why doesnāt my head agree and move on? Why does it still question it? I know I donāt want to be at all. I love my family. But I just want this to move on. I want to enjoy life. Why canāt I find women attractive again? (Brief moments I do). I seriously donāt understand the false attraction? Iāve tried agreeing with it but it wonāt let this drop. Why am I attracted to the same sex? Why am I attracted to people I would never thought of looking at? Why does it give me such grief about this? I know I shouldnāt look at adult content but why can I only feel good watching either lesbian or females? I tried to agree with the gay but it makes me sick and horrendous I even considered this? I just want my life back.
anonymous00981
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- 19w
Uncertainty sucks.
Iām trying to live with uncertainty but it doesnāt feel right. The āI may or may not be bi/gayā really sucks because I canāt stop ruminating, analyzing, or checking. This especially sucks because I feel like literally EVERYTHING in my life leads to the fact that Iām a fraud which feels horrible. I canāt even talk to my friends the way I used to without feeling like Iām lying about myself. The false attraction and loss of attraction to men is literally horrible because now I feel like the life i fantasized for myself isnāt something I want.
anonymous00981
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- 17w
I feel like this is it
I had a bad rumination spiral yesterday and went to bed hoping Iād start over in the morning. I was wrong. I had dreams about liking women and not being attracted to men anymore and my entire body has been in a state of anxiety since. I genuinely feel like Iām gay and just need to accept it. I have this urge to accept it. Maybe if I do Iāll get some sort of relief because this feeling is awful. I feel like my brain is telling me that Iāll get relief if I just accept it and come out. The intrusive thoughts donāt even seem to be around sexual images anymore, just to come out.
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