i’ve had rocd for about two years and the thoughts used to absolutely terrify me and that was my way of proving i still loved him because the thoughts scared me so much. i just saw something saying if you’re still worried about the thoughts then that means you still love your partner. at this point i’ve suffered so long that i don’t have that much of a reaction to the thoughts anymore and i feel so completely numb to them and i don’t freak out and that in turn freaks me out that now i really don’t love him anymore because the thoughts aren’t causing me as much anxiety.

Relationship OCD

That is actually not how it works:) At some point you’ll get used to those thoughts. They don’t give you as much anxiety because you already know them for the past 2 years. This has nothing to to with the love you have towards your partner. Love is a choice and not a feeling. I think its a good sign:) Now that the anxiety is partly away you can maybe start to lean in more into your relationship. Its a chance :]