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You donât know.., and thatâs The key to recovery. Learning that you wonât know and thatâs okay
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I just find it so hard ......and it just feels tho I am. But all I want is to feel what I used to for women đ
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@Ihateocd83 I feel that. I would ask this to myself⌠would me being gay or straight affect what Iâm doing in life right now? Does it actually affect who I can say yes to dating with my own consent? If you answer honestly, youâll find that no matter what the âanswerâ is, it doesnât actually affect your life. Once you understand this and trust whatever happens in life next, youâll let go and you will begin to heal from this theme
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@cam332179 I'm struggle because it feels as tho I'm never going to know unless I try it or something. I just know that I can't give women up. But my mind tells me otherwise. But I don't want to feel like I'm not being honest with them đ. My mind is telling me I would be happy marrying a man....I've never touched a man in that way it's so messed up and confusing đ
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@Ihateocd83 Ocd is a cycle. The more you think about whatâs true and right for you will keep you in that cycle. I know itâs difficult but just trust yourself and whatever outcome. Even if you feel Like a liar, as weird as it may sound, be okay with being a âliar.â What matters most is choices you make in life, and not the actual thoughts.
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@Ihateocd83 Honestly the worst thing you can do is search for an answer to your question. Be okay with whatâs happening now and be okay with whatever outcomes happen in the future
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@cam332179 But all I want is to just love women the way I did when I was growing up. I never had nothing until the age of 22 always had crushes on girls ..never had many girlfriends tho. I'm 38 now . I'm not really bothered what people think it's just I don't want to give women up
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@cam332179 It's also the feelings aswel. It just makes me so sad that I can't feel what I used to for women. I just think how has this happened
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The idea of looking gay is nonsense. Gay doesn't look a certain way any more than straight does
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now theyâre just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself itâs two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself itâs alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if itâs just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but itâs confusing. On top of that Iâve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like Iâd be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk Iâve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that Iâm straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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So Iâve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a womanâs body disgusting. Looking back in my life Iâve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I canât remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people canât get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations donât mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when âtesting my reactionsâ and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. Thatâs not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I donât want, and then tries to convince me that I do. Itâs painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I donât want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but Iâm terrified that one day Iâll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. Iâve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that Iâm "bisexual." Iâve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge meâtelling me, âYou donât even know what love feels like.â It wonât shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that Iâm a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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