How do you ever know if its hocd or not ?. And has anyone been told they look gay ? 😔

You don’t know.., and that’s The key to recovery. Learning that you won’t know and that’s okay

I just find it so hard ......and it just feels tho I am. But all I want is to feel what I used to for women 😔

@Ihateocd83 I feel that. I would ask this to myself… would me being gay or straight affect what I’m doing in life right now? Does it actually affect who I can say yes to dating with my own consent? If you answer honestly, you’ll find that no matter what the “answer” is, it doesn’t actually affect your life. Once you understand this and trust whatever happens in life next, you’ll let go and you will begin to heal from this theme

@cam332179 I'm struggle because it feels as tho I'm never going to know unless I try it or something. I just know that I can't give women up. But my mind tells me otherwise. But I don't want to feel like I'm not being honest with them 😔. My mind is telling me I would be happy marrying a man....I've never touched a man in that way it's so messed up and confusing 😔

@Ihateocd83 Ocd is a cycle. The more you think about what’s true and right for you will keep you in that cycle. I know it’s difficult but just trust yourself and whatever outcome. Even if you feel Like a liar, as weird as it may sound, be okay with being a “liar.” What matters most is choices you make in life, and not the actual thoughts.

@Ihateocd83 Honestly the worst thing you can do is search for an answer to your question. Be okay with what’s happening now and be okay with whatever outcomes happen in the future

@cam332179 But all I want is to just love women the way I did when I was growing up. I never had nothing until the age of 22 always had crushes on girls ..never had many girlfriends tho. I'm 38 now . I'm not really bothered what people think it's just I don't want to give women up

@cam332179 It's also the feelings aswel. It just makes me so sad that I can't feel what I used to for women. I just think how has this happened