- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
How come it feels like I don’t want to be with my husband of almost 18 years? I feel I no longer love him and feel uncomfortable with him 24/7. I feel so sad that I feel like this. How could this be ocd?
I’ve thought the same thing when I am in the throes of an OCD spike. The best words anyone ever said to me were, “love is a choice not a feeling.” Feelings come and go and are unreliable. OCD attacks our values and what we hold most dear. For me, it targeted my relationship with my husband. Leaning into those fears with ERP is the only way forward. Repeating the intrusive thoughts until they are no longer anxiety provoking sounds counter-intuitive but it really works. I actually am going through a pretty bad spike at the moment and I needed a reminder myself.
I’ve never been diagnosed with OCD, but went to counseling in college and she did say I have pretty bad anxiety. When I mentioned these exact symptoms with my husband, she said that your anxiety (or OCD) takes the most important things in your life and makes you believe you don’t want or love them.
i feel so bad for posting here, idk what i wamt i have so many thoughts abt the feelings i have for my bf im scared my thughts are true or that they will be true and i feel bad for feeling amd thinking this way i such a bad girlfriend, i am scared that i like other people just because i look at them or talk to them normally and i feel like a liar what cam i do to stop feeling like this i am scared
He loves me and complimenta me and saya beautiful things and does many things for me, he says he loves me and he is there for me, but me.. i cant even say i love you without doubting, i am doubting my feelings my atractuon for him, everything, i feel so bad, i dont want to be like this, i hate myself . He is precious and genuine and im scared im not, i have moments when i am happy … but rn i am sad. I saw him today. i dont know what i felt but as im writing this i feel guilt amd fear. Scared that i may be pretending. I want to be happy, what if im not happy with him.. it cant be.
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
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