Does anyone else worry about being “forced” to be a lesbian because men aren’t attracted to you?? I worry about this a lot. Also that men can “tell” I’m gay and that’s why they don’t like me.

I wont let ocd win

282d ago

Do you mind if I ask how old you are? I didn't have my first relationship till I was 29, we have been together 10 years now, married 5 and my husband knows all about my OCD. Maybe you just haven't met the right person yet. Have you tried online dating that's what I did, I dated guy after guy for over a year until I met my husband.

doloresguppies

282d ago

Thanks for your response. Im 19 and I’ve tried online dating, but it just doesn’t work for me. I lost my virginity to a guy i met on tinder but I wasn’t super into him. Im just stressed out that the universe is telling me I’m gay.

I wont let ocd win

282d ago

If it stresses you out that much then it is most probably the OCD, it plays on your fears/worries and will not stop until you analyise them and come up with an answer to which you never will for certain. My therapist taught me that you need to think maybe I am maybe I'm not does it matter at this presise moment. Try talking to the OCD say what if I am gay what's it matter to you, maybe I am maybe I'm not, do I have to decide and tell the world, the answer is no. Don't give the OCD the satisfaction of arguing with it because then it wins. I still struggle some days with mine, I know I am not gay but can't know for certain that one day I may and that uncertainty is what the OCD plays on, I have to say to my OCD maybe I will like women one day maybe I won't at the moment I am in a relationship with a man I love and hope to be forever. Thoughts are just that thoughts, you decide on what you do.