cozymushroom
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alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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Remember it's just a thought. Ive been in your exact situation. And particularly, I noticed that when I felt especially happy and/or confident in my relationships the intrusive thoughts would come and try to ruin my confidence. Don't let it girl! I felt exactly like you, I did not want to break up at all but the thoughts were getting so intense that I ended up breaking things off because I couldnt handle it. I was MISERABLE afterwards (he was toxic though high key 🤣) and had so many regrets. If your relationship is good and healthy, please practice ERP to your thoughts in order to save yourself from doing something youll end up regretting
cozymushroomcozymushroom
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My therapist had to reschedule to the 25th, and that’s only going to be my first appointment. I don’t really know how to do erp
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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- 4y
@raeniedays Agree with the thoughts but DON'T make yourself believe them or engage with them further. The key is the second part, do not believe that the thought is real. You are simply agreeing and making a joke out of the thought to dismiss it
cozymushroomcozymushroom
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@alexisrae1999 Has this actually alleviated some of your themes and detached you from them? I’ve never done it so I’m skeptical
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@raeniedays It has given me a better grasp on what is real and what is OCD, its really hard to start off doing though so be patient with yourself!
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cozymushroomcozymushroom
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Thank you! It just felt so so real like my true self
cozymushroomcozymushroom
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@BlueMountain Thank you so much ❤️
ShannonShannon
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I’m struggling with it feeling real and like I want it, you are not alone!
LisaP99LisaP99
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Yup, that’s ocd. “It feels so feel”. And that’s why it’s such a struggle. I sabotage everything and feel so relieved but then my true feelings return and I’m like “nooo!” Just know thoughts and feelings will pass. Don’t do the compulsions. Eventually you will unfuse from these thoughts and feelings and the love you know will return.
cozymushroomcozymushroom
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I’m just so scared it won’t it feels like everything is ruined. And it was such a calm thought it felt like me
LisaP99LisaP99
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@raeniedays OCD is the biggest liar. This is not your true self thinking here.
cozymushroomcozymushroom
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@LisaP99 It just has a way of feeling like it is sometimes
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