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Just don't think about it anymore, just tell to your mind 'so what,idgaf' laugh a little and move on
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I’m not encouraging flirting or anything of the sort but everyone is human, we all flirt, most of us anyway. Please try not to feel too guilty, and move past this having learned something. You’re allowed to make mistakes sweetheart, no one is perfect. And a little flirting isn’t anything to get so worked up about and get yourself in a mess. If you want to, tell him, if not just try forget about it and learn for the future. X
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I have been where you are sis! Do NOT confess to your boyfriend, it'll make your ocd worse because confessing is a compulsion to get rid of your anxiety! You felt like you HAD to do it, right? I am so sorry you are going through this. You are allowed to notice other attractive people, and if you flirted with another man it is nothing to dwell on, especially since you care so much for your bf. If you didn't care about him, you wouldn't be feeling this guilt hun! Try practicing ERP to the situation that happened, all the best! 😊
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Update. We broke up because of my indecisiveness. When we are dating I want to be single and date around and not be stuck to one person. When I’m single, I want to be with him. This is the third time we broke up. I keep being indecisive with him. We were best friends for 2 years and we been doing this one and off shit since July
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I broke up with him, because I wanted to be single and date around.
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I told my boyfriend last night about all the times that I thought I “cheated” (I have ROCD) on him and he said that I didn’t but he still feels uncomfortable about it and I can tell he’s not answering me and he’s being really dry and his responses. He said it was fine but now I don’t know what to do because I know it’s not fine. I didn’t cheat on him, but I felt like I did and I told him that and I think it made him really uneasy. I just don’t wanna lose him and I’m scared because I had a dream about it and he got really mad and broke up with me. I didn’t want to tell him what I was going through in the first place, but it was eating at me so badly with the guilt I had to confess. I don’t know what is wrong with me, but I cannot lose him.
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I will be straight forward and honest. I have cheated in the past. My last relationship was long term, and I had begged and begged for him to change and in the end he never did. I don’t know why I cheated. And I’m not going to make excuses for myself for why I did. I messed up. The cheating was online, it was never in person. But now, I’m in a new relationship. And he’s everything I have ever wanted in a boyfriend, husband, and best friend. I want this man to be with me the rest of our lives, and I want to see him help raise our future children. But I can’t help but feel such immense guilt, because although I have never cheated on him, his ex had cheated on him. And I truly don’t understand how or why she would…but that’s not my place to comment on. Such a big part of me wants to tell him, and tell him that that’s not me anymore, and I know that we will communicate healthily and openly, unlike my last relationship, which he never wanted to. Not only this, my brain just won’t. stop. thinking…about how I had cheated. I regret doing what I had done, I don’t WANT to cheat anymore, or ever again. Especially with the love of my life I have now. But I’m scared of what do I do if I have a compulsion, or anything revolving around cheating. I want to tell him about it, but I know I shouldn’t, and can’t really tell him as it’s complicated, and I know I would only make things worse. I feel like such a terrible person, and girlfriend, for what I have done and what I’m worried about ‘if I do’, even though I don’t want to. I want to be better, I want to grow. Any advice please would be amazing.
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I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?
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