- Username
- iman
- Date posted
- 5y ago
- Username
- Caroline8008Caroline8008
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I feel like this too sometimes. And the fact my boyfriend has stuck through it with me I'm so grateful for! My rocd tells me I don't want to be with him and so I should break up with him. But then when I get through a bad phase, i get so upset thinking that I should end things as he deserves someone better. But you see, he doesn't give up. Because he knows I am working on it and that it isn't "me" if that makes sense. Your rocd is just that. He possibly stays with you for a number of reasons, but it's worth remembering that rocd is not who you are. It's hard I know, but he's probably sticking around for the real you and you definitely deserve that!!
- Username
- imaniman
- Date posted
- 5y ago
thank you that’s so nice to hear. i hope u can keep that in ur mind as well when things get tough :))
- Username
- Caroline8008Caroline8008
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I spoke to my mum about this too. She said she will never stop loving me or caring for me. I feel I have put them through a lot, but your parents will be more concerned over your welfare than anything else. I don't want to reassure, and I suggest sitting with the thought. Acknowledging you'll possibly never know for sure what they think. I definitely encourage you to see a therapist, who might be able to help with this for example EPT. I hope this helps!
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- Caroline8008Caroline8008
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- Username
- littlestinkerlittlestinker
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I feel like this but with my mum and dad, I feel like they deserve a better daughter, one who won’t stress them out as much over irrational things..
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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i personally do not have OCD, but my boyfriend has ROCD and it’s really taking a toll on us and our relationship and i’m not sure how to stop getting upset over his negative thoughts
- Username
- Louise b
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y ago
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I always wonder “what if I’m not attracted to my partner” “what if I still have feelings for other people” “what if I cheated on my partner” “what if my partner cheats on me” “what If my partner annoys me and I don’t actually want to be with him” and I’ll do this so much over and over that I get so worked up I’ll criticize him, over analyze him, feel as though I don’t like him. But then an hour later after I find relief ( from telling him, looking things up, talking to my sisters about it) I’ll be in love with him but I won’t fully feel it because I’ll just be thinking about how I just felt before and how bad it was or anticipate it again for the future. So I’m constantly ruining it for myself, and it hurts so bad because he’s so perfect for me and so kind to me and everything about our relationship is right but my mind tries to convince me of other things and it feels so real.
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Partner of someone with rocd here
Do any other partners of someone with rocd just feel so defeated sometimes? I know how debilitating this is for my partner don’t get me wrong, but it’s debilitating for me too. To constantly feel like I have to justify my whole past but his equally bad or worse behavior is fine. He doesn’t owe me an explanation or even an apology because he is having ocd about my actions. Sometimes he’s treated me badly in the past and that caused me to be a jerk too. I’m not right for that. But because of his ocd I have to constantly own it over and over and over, but he doesn’t even acknowledge that he has been cruel to me at times. I’m so exhausted and I hope this doesn’t offend anyone. Just needed to get it off my chest.
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