does anyone else feel like their partner deserves better than u especially because of how the rocd is affecting the relationship ? i have been finding reasons to get upset with my partner which causes arguments and i know it’s only because of the rocd. and he understands completely and he’s fine after everything calms down but i just feel like he deserves so much better than me because i’m not doing well with my rocd

I feel like this too sometimes. And the fact my boyfriend has stuck through it with me I'm so grateful for! My rocd tells me I don't want to be with him and so I should break up with him. But then when I get through a bad phase, i get so upset thinking that I should end things as he deserves someone better. But you see, he doesn't give up. Because he knows I am working on it and that it isn't "me" if that makes sense. Your rocd is just that. He possibly stays with you for a number of reasons, but it's worth remembering that rocd is not who you are. It's hard I know, but he's probably sticking around for the real you and you definitely deserve that!!

thank you that’s so nice to hear. i hope u can keep that in ur mind as well when things get tough :))

I spoke to my mum about this too. She said she will never stop loving me or caring for me. I feel I have put them through a lot, but your parents will be more concerned over your welfare than anything else. I don't want to reassure, and I suggest sitting with the thought. Acknowledging you'll possibly never know for sure what they think. I definitely encourage you to see a therapist, who might be able to help with this for example EPT. I hope this helps!

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I feel like this but with my mum and dad, I feel like they deserve a better daughter, one who won’t stress them out as much over irrational things..