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I feel like this too sometimes. And the fact my boyfriend has stuck through it with me I'm so grateful for! My rocd tells me I don't want to be with him and so I should break up with him. But then when I get through a bad phase, i get so upset thinking that I should end things as he deserves someone better. But you see, he doesn't give up. Because he knows I am working on it and that it isn't "me" if that makes sense. Your rocd is just that. He possibly stays with you for a number of reasons, but it's worth remembering that rocd is not who you are. It's hard I know, but he's probably sticking around for the real you and you definitely deserve that!!
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thank you that’s so nice to hear. i hope u can keep that in ur mind as well when things get tough :))
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I spoke to my mum about this too. She said she will never stop loving me or caring for me. I feel I have put them through a lot, but your parents will be more concerned over your welfare than anything else. I don't want to reassure, and I suggest sitting with the thought. Acknowledging you'll possibly never know for sure what they think. I definitely encourage you to see a therapist, who might be able to help with this for example EPT. I hope this helps!
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I feel like this but with my mum and dad, I feel like they deserve a better daughter, one who won’t stress them out as much over irrational things..
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- 16w
I’m ruining my relationship, and idk if it’s OCD or if I’m just an awful person. I’m tired of constantly fighting with my boyfriend. but I have no one to blame but myself. I can’t stop picking apart everything they say, I can’t stop being so negative, I can’t stop overthinking and obsessing, I can’t stop feeling like they’re lying or being inconsistent. I constantly ask too many questions to the point where I feel he thinks I’m stupid. I’m starting to feel stupid myself. It seems like I can’t understand basic conversations with my boyfriend anymore unless they’re super black and white. He deserves better. I don’t deserve love. I feel like I’m destroying the one thing that makes me happy. I don’t feel happy with him anymore because we’re constantly fighting. And it’s all my fault. I think I’m just an awful, crazy person
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