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I know this feeling but if there is anything I can impart from what I've learned...posts like this perpetuate the cycle as these are reassurance seeking and also treating these thoughts as just thoughts and being indifferent to them and ever allowing them to stay awhile (I personally like saying "pull up a chair and hang out a while") robs them of their power.
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YESSS š„²
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I have a bf in the air force and I see him in October. I get worried that Iām not going to feel anything when I see him or not be attracted to him. And I worry that itās not even because im not but because of my anxiety. So then I could lose someone I actually love
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@Whyyocd Oh gosh that sounds so hard but i can relate to that feeling, its horrible.. i hope your ocd doesnt get in the way of you spending time with your bf in october. remember that ocd latches onto what we value most so he clearly means a lot to you, try and ignore ocd telling you otherwise (easier said than done haha). I dont have a bf but i thought i liked this guy but now im terrified im faking it. and i cant even think of actually pursuing it because if I wasnāt immediately attracted to him then i would take that as proof and I honestly dont know what id do
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@Winter Thank you sm š„ŗš something I worried about was being intimate with him and then having an intrusive thought. I asked my therapist about it and she said that if youāre only not doing something because of an intrusive thought or something like that then still do it. Because then itās sort of like a compulsion. Like weāre are avoiding. Itās definitely a lot easier said than done too!!! If you have a therapist then I would definitely talk to them about it and see what they say and if they can explain it better than I can rn!!! :)
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@Whyyocd Oh me too! My boyfriend is coming back from the marines in 5 days! Iām so terrified and anxious but I just want to love him b
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@Whyyocd Yeah thats true, i guess its an avoidance compulsion really. Its just that the uncertainty is so scary! Hope everything goes okay for you in october (im sure it will, dont let ocd win š)
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@Winter No yeah for sure and thank you again!!!!! š„° and I hope you can try and figure out if you really do like that one guy š„ŗ
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@PinkLotus OMGGG ILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU!!! Feel free to talk to me about it if you want!!! Something that has kind of helped me is realizing that whatever is going to happen will happen so there is āno reasonā to worry about it. Obviously way easier said then done. YOU GOT THIS āŗļøāØ
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@Whyyocd Thank you so much!!!! Iāll definitely keep that mind and let you know how it goes
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I feel like I will never like guys again. Idk what to do bc my attraction to guys ain't there anymore, and yes I'm also afraid I'll realize I'm in denial
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rn it feels like I am :(
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@corpse dance I know exactly what you mean, it feels awful to have it weighing on you 24/7. Really hope things get better for you soon and thanks for replying, its nice to know weāre not alone :)
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So Iām 22 and have no experience like at all not even a little bit. I donāt see myself ever getting into anything with anyone either and sometimes I get sad but other times I think I wouldnāt mind because itās like my āsafe spaceā if that makes sense
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Iāve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and Iām beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind Iāve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (Iām a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like āokay. Fine, but I donāt want to date a girlā I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if Iām romantically interested in women and not men. Iāve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I donāt want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts donāt stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I donāt want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that thatās not what I want. It doesnāt feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik itās still ocd related) but Iām scared that once I tell him, Iāll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh Iāve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, Iām stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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Iām 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Donāt get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you wonāt prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you havenāt tried it: and itās that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I donāt want I donāt want I donāt want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I donāt wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now theyāre just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself itās two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself itās alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if itās just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but itās confusing. On top of that Iāve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like Iād be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk Iāve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that Iām straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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