Are others with hocd/soocd also just genuinely terrified theyll never be truly attracted to anyone again in future? Im so scared i will be faking liking a guy or just not feel anything because im so worried and checking everything or finally “realise” im in denial. It already feels like i would avoid dating anyone because id be terrified it would turn out im not attracted to them and that would feel like the ultimate proof for me at this point..

I have a bf in the air force and I see him in October. I get worried that I’m not going to feel anything when I see him or not be attracted to him. And I worry that it’s not even because im not but because of my anxiety. So then I could lose someone I actually love

@Whyyocd Oh gosh that sounds so hard but i can relate to that feeling, its horrible.. i hope your ocd doesnt get in the way of you spending time with your bf in october. remember that ocd latches onto what we value most so he clearly means a lot to you, try and ignore ocd telling you otherwise (easier said than done haha). I dont have a bf but i thought i liked this guy but now im terrified im faking it. and i cant even think of actually pursuing it because if I wasn’t immediately attracted to him then i would take that as proof and I honestly dont know what id do

@Winter Thank you sm 🥺💗 something I worried about was being intimate with him and then having an intrusive thought. I asked my therapist about it and she said that if you’re only not doing something because of an intrusive thought or something like that then still do it. Because then it’s sort of like a compulsion. Like we’re are avoiding. It’s definitely a lot easier said than done too!!! If you have a therapist then I would definitely talk to them about it and see what they say and if they can explain it better than I can rn!!! :)

@Whyyocd Oh me too! My boyfriend is coming back from the marines in 5 days! I’m so terrified and anxious but I just want to love him b

@Whyyocd Yeah thats true, i guess its an avoidance compulsion really. Its just that the uncertainty is so scary! Hope everything goes okay for you in october (im sure it will, dont let ocd win 😊)

@Winter No yeah for sure and thank you again!!!!! 🥰 and I hope you can try and figure out if you really do like that one guy 🥺

@PinkLotus OMGGG ILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU!!! Feel free to talk to me about it if you want!!! Something that has kind of helped me is realizing that whatever is going to happen will happen so there is “no reason” to worry about it. Obviously way easier said then done. YOU GOT THIS ☺️✨

@Whyyocd Thank you so much!!!! I’ll definitely keep that mind and let you know how it goes

rn it feels like I am :(

@corpse dance I know exactly what you mean, it feels awful to have it weighing on you 24/7. Really hope things get better for you soon and thanks for replying, its nice to know we’re not alone :)