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- 6y ago
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- 6y ago
You’re right girl .... I feel like we are made for each other .... but this DAMN OCD is always like ... “check it one more time to make sure she’s not coming back!!”
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- 6y ago
Also if you gotta block her so you won’t stalk then that’s an option ? I had to do that once when I found myself obsessively comparing myself every day to a girl that wasn’t relevant to the present at all. You’re not alone! Much love!
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- 15w ago
@junelle Isnt that avoidance?
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- 6y ago
Oh I TOTALLY understand that feeling!!! And because it’s not impossible it makes it seem likely. You go “well it’s not irrational of a fear cause it’s based in real life events!” Ugh I def go thru the same exact thing. But recognizing that it is the OCD creating those thoughts and making that distinction is a huge first step so kudos for being able to do that!
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- 6y ago
I can bet it will make you feel worse if you do it. Remind yourself he is with you now because he wants to be.
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- 6y ago
Oh I struggle with the same feelings! Retroactive jealousy doesn’t do anyone any good. You have to focus on what is real in the present. If they wanted to be with that person, they would be. But they aren’t. So do not torture yourself with images of them. You run the risk of becoming resentful towards them for things that happened before your chapter even began. Ask yourself, what do I gain from seeing these images? Does it make me feel good? Does it bring anything positive in my relationship? If not then you have to have the discipline to deny yourself that vice. I say this all with the greatest of empathy for you and bc I am def still struggling with that habit myself. Hope it was helpful ?
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- 15w ago
@junelle Thanks. Is it ocd?
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- 6y ago
That’s understandable to be a bit uncomfortable with if someone was obviously extremely attached to your current partner. Especially if that love note was after their time together. Your feelings are valid. But ultimately it is causing you distress to carry that insecurity around. If she is not actively trying to be a part of your bf’s life then you kinda have to push yourself to come to terms with his past. Sometimes I find myself thinking “ugh I just can’t handle the jealousy and insecurity I have, I wish my partner was never interested in anyone before me” but then I tell myself that if every experience we went thru brought us to each other then I have to make peace with the past so that I can fully enjoy my relationship with my partner. You deserve to enjoy the fact that they are choosing to be with you!
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- 6y ago
Thank you all so much!! My anxiety is making me hyper sensitive this morning so I need all the prayers and good lucks out there so that I can enjoy myself today with my boyfriend!! We are going to a bunch of music events today!
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- 6y ago
It’s just SO hard because I found a love note from her declaring how much she loved him and that he never loved her the same But like .... they were together on and off for like 2 years and she actually moved from another country JUST to be with him
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- 6y ago
So I’m SO insecure about that
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