Hey everyone, just wanted to say that I conquered something really big with my OCD yesterday and I feel really proud about myself. I told the person I’m most close with about my ROCD and she was so understanding of it and we talked a lot about what she could do to help me when I get into one of those moods where it’s really obvious that I’m trying to more or less ‘interrogate’ her (Don’t worry it’s not by giving reassurance I talked to her about that). All this really helps me because a lot of the time after I have an ROCD type of mood swing it can trigger my Harm OCD and I think I’ve really hurt her and that what I do might cause her to self harm and all of this so it’s not a good cycle at all. I’m not trying to flaunt my success by no means and the reason why I’m saying this is because for once in a really long time I feel proud of myself and happy that I was able to take the first big step in dealing with my ROCD For anybody out there who thinks that they can’t get help or talk about their feelings, stop it. If I can do it (The person who’s incredibly introverted and has big trust issues) you can do it. I believe in all of you that you can all have success no matter how big or small it may seem it’s still progress. Have a wonderful day folks and remember to take care of yourself ?

@Fox - thanks. We have been together for 8 months in a LDR. He’s committed and plans to move out here I just wish he would be more supportive. He tends to lose his temper in the face of all the questioning and I lose my shit sometimes when I can’t get a hold of him. I think we focus on the ROCD way too much in the relationship. It takes over a lot of our conversations these days b/c of how he reacts and how I react to how he reacts. That cycle needs to break. We both try. We both love each other a lot. He’s the first man in ten years I felt I actually have a future with and I think that’s a lot of pressure to put on one person...

That’s amazing!! Great job ??

Awesome! I know how hard ROCD can be and it’s so important to have a supportive partner!!! Good for you!

great job!

Thanks!!! @Rory

Thanks @P, yeah I’m really glad about how supportive she is. I know a lot of people who would try to back out once they realized that “this isn’t going to be a simple relationship/ friendship”. I’m sorry you have to deal with ROCD as well, and I hope that you have found someone who is supportive and understanding and if you haven’t yet well know that you will find someone who’s right for you out there c:

That’s great! It’s up in the air for me and my current partner unfortunately (he’s the “this isn’t what I signed up for” guy) ? so he might not be the right one after all which sucks to think about but something I have to accept. For now we push through it and try, try...

@P, aw I’m sorry to hear that. Guys don’t expect to have to do tend to these types of things but sometimes that’s just how life is. Idk how long you and him have been together but seeing that he’s still with you I think he does want things to work out. If he’s committed to the relationship he’ll make changes to his behaviour towards it. It’s likely that he’s scared about doing something wrong and doesn’t know how to act in ways that doesn’t trigger your ROCD, if he’s willing to listen you should bring up some pointers with him maybe like a ‘do and don’t’ sort of list. I hope everything turns out for the best between you two

@P , Hey I'm happy to hear that he's committed and that you guys have bigger plans for the future. Just from reading this I think you guys do yes focus on the ROCD too much but maybe in a bad way. A lot of good can come from talking about your ROCD but when those conversations are arguments and fights or how those fights and arguments turn out it doesn't create a lot of room for constructive conversation. I think what might help is to give him some tips of what he can say when you bring up something that seems like you're accusing him of something and I think he needs to learn some calming excercises like breathing strategies to help keep his cool. Idk if you have done this already but you should talk to him about the FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) Principle. He needs to know that the evidence you find is for a lack of better words not real. I really do hope the best for you two, it sounds like you really really feel connected to him and love him very much.