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You still fear the possibility of it being true. Trust me I know this first hand. It's not the same thing as accepting you're a pedo. Acceptance is acknowledge. Hey yeah this kids attractive! I might be attracted to them. Who knows? So far I haven't wanted to be with them that way. We will see. It's scary I know. It really is like facing your worst fear. It's freeing though to acknowledge your feelings and then letting them go. Groinals, weird dreams, TV shows are all triggers for me. But once I stop being afraid of me doing something, I'm not afraid I will and then I don't even think about it. It's weird. Watch "the woodsman" I think it will help you with exposures.
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Yeah it feels true like all of it so I’m not sure how to redirect myself bc even if I brush them the feeling is still there or guilt that I’m letting it go bc I feel like I’m supposed to think abt it yk, and I was reading something that I later figured out was bad for ocd thoughts and accepting uncertainty so that kinda became my thought process now 😭😅
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@kathernyr Or like proving myself I’m like “omg this can’t happen like could I? or would ?I” like I feel like I have ask myself those questions to keep myself like idk, at this point my Brain is like “yeah just accept it’s gonna happen and that all those thoughts were true” and idk how to like get myself like wait no I don’t like it I don’t want it to happen bc It feels like oh I like them now like I would actually want that or just accept basically the worst case and that means that I like it now. 😭 idk
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@kathernyr Or means I’m gonna do it now 😭 or want to do it
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@BlueMountain Okay 😭❤️ thank youu
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@BlueMountain 🥺❤️🤍
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@kathernyr I totally get it. Sometimes the maybe maybe not for me doesn't work though. In that case, tell yourself to surrender. I like the idea of surrendering because you are surrendering to whatever is possible and whatever is meant for you. If you are that way, you will deal with it. When, if, it comes up. You haven't done anything so far, at this moment you are not doing anything, but you are surrendering to the possibility you may do something bad. You also surrender to the possibility nothing will happen. Does that make more sense?
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@charissepisces2021 So I guess yes basically you are accepting it, or also if I have intrusive thoughts I will just say eh I will figure it out later I have other things to do right now. Or also another trick is asking myself will I be able to find the answer within the next 5 min? And if not I let it go. Especially if your thoughts are saying "what if" lol
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@kathernyr https://youtu.be/4-ONS8El6TU
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@charissepisces2021 Ok bc that’s what it’s feeling rn like if I’m actually gonna do it but I don’t wanna 😭 like it feels so weird like now it’s come to where I’m saying I’m a pedo bc I like kids but then I get so confused if I am or not and it’s just I don’t feel bad abt it either idk if I’m explaining it right
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@kathernyr I think you're on the right track... I think the main thing is, stop the anxiety and obsessive thoughts. I think you just have a really string aversion to being a pedo and you just gotta figure out how to let that go.
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@charissepisces2021 Was I sounding weird? 😭😭
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@kathernyr Don't look for reassurance!
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@charissepisces2021 But, the dots 😭at the end was scarin me
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@kathernyr We don't have the answers, and that's OK. Have the faith within yourself to know you have good intentions!
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@charissepisces2021 Okay 🥲🥲, thanks for sending the video 💜
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Thank you for this ✨❤️
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Or accept that I would like it.
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I was watching a video and the guy is talking about OCD in general. He says you are supposed to say “I guess it will happen” when you have an OCD fear or intrusive thought. But my thing is if my brain is telling me I have to be on guard or else I will be a danger to children I’m just not sure how I can say “I guess it will happen”. Does anybody have any thoughts on this?
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I've been told a lot that in order to get better, we need to tolerate uncertainty, which yea I get that and I'm trying every day more and more to reach that point!! But I've also been told that we need to tolerate uncertainty AND "our worst fears becoming true". Like how does that work, especially with POCD, OCD about a///ault, SA and all of that? Like that is really difficult for me and I don't really understand how I'm supposed to just shrug stuff like that off
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I know the solution is to always say “yeah that could be true, but I am choosing to live my life anyway.” However, I feel like my biggest issue is my brain always assuming that it is immediately true when I do that. Like if I say “maybe I’m attracted to teenagers, it’s possible,” then my brain INSTANTLY starts rationalizing that thought and defending it and being like “oh okay so you think this now and it makes sense because xyz, and now that’s who you are and your real desire is now and always will be teenagers.” I feel really alone in this area of feeling like my brain “accepting the thoughts” means my brain immediately accepts them as true. I obviously don’t want to think they’re true but I feel so stuck now.
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