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YES. I felt an overwhelming responsibility to be absolutely sure he was the one, otherwise I was being harmful to him and felt out of place and that it was inappropriate.
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Are you guys still together??
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Relate to this so hard!
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@alexisrae1999 iām sorry :( Are u and ur partner still together?
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Does Rocd make it nearly impossible to forgive your partner for anything. Whether it is big or small? My situation is so gray area where thereās something my bf did that I feel like Iām not okay with but he did this when we were first dating (not bf and gf yet). I ruminate all day about it bc I donāt want to lose him and see a future with him and I know he loves me so purely. But I also feel like Iām going against my morals here bc I do feel betrayed by what he did. I try to forgive him by diminishing my feelings and telling myself āhe never did anything physical with a girl or went out with another girl while we were togetherā but still feel so hurt that he even messaged another girl while us dating. Heās given me an explanation and has proved how much I can trust him so Iām just completely stuck on whether I should forgive something I know I wouldāve never done to him or leave him even though the only thing heās done wrong was before us becoming official. Iāve broken up with him countless times over this situation bc I feel like I ācanāt live with itā but then immediately when we break up I want him back and I kind of understand his explanation and reasoning. I donāt know what is ocd and what is my real intuition anymore. I genuinely think itās both. Are any of you guys in the same boat?
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Hey everyone, First time posting here! Wanted to share my story for some support but also to hopefully make others feel less alone. In short - my ROCD has made such a mess of my personal life. I was in a great relationship until spring of last year, at which point we separated mainly due to my ROCD. I struggled heavily with OCD about 10 years ago (harm based intrusive thoughts, sexual orientation ocd, etc). It took a lot of work but I was able to mostly overcome my struggles and truthfully, hadnāt given ocd much thought since then. I thought I was cured. And then 10 years later I am in a very fulfilling relationship with a girl I really love, but at about the year mark in my relationship things really changed. She wanted to have a conversation about next steps (moving in, marriage, kids, etc) and at that point my brain just went into panic mode and the ocd took over. From that point on, I was constantly scanning for red flags, felt very reserved when it came to any sort of statement or commitment and tended to avoid anything that would indicate I was committed to a long term future. It was not that I didnāt love it was just that my ocd was doing anything to keep me from making a big commitment. It eventually got a point where we had a big conversation about breaking up or staying together and my OCD convinced me that it was safer and that I would do less harm to her if we ended things, which was incredibly devastating to me. At the time I felt like my obsessing over small red flags were normal and that I needed to protect myself. I just had no clue it was ROCD. I spent the next 8 months missing her and kicking myself for my mistakes, and I eventually got the courage to reach out and see if sheād be willing to talk again, which she was. But the problem is, at this point I still didnāt know it was ocd. So when we talked again I was still plagued by ROCD as all the same thoughts and feelings came flooding back. We tried to talk through things but once again I was unable to make any sort of commitment to the future so it went nowhere. Once again, I am feeling very sad and angry at myself for not being able to handle ROCD. I feel like I let it control me twice and has robbed me of a lot of happiness and hurt someone I care very much about. I understand itās probably not best to just look at ourselves with anger and guilt all the time but itās hard not to when you feel like you just caused so much harm. Anyone feel like they can relate? Or if anyone is going through something similar I am happy to chat as ROCD can really be tricky. Thanks
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My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldnāt doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point Iām so unhappy with him and had to break up . Itās been over a month now but Iām still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I canāt stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts
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