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No...but i did like buff men and kept saying i lile buff men but when i saw buff women my brain said hah women can do it too
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can i recover from feeling bi because i already felt like i was gay for sure then it went from bi i still get bad anxiety
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Yes you can still recover from it. It will take a while but yes you can. If i can so can you:)
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oh really? have you ever felt like you were actually gay and there was nothing u could do ab it? and have u ever lost ALL ur attraction to men while feeling like you were truly attracted to women? It seems like I was never straight to begin with
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The gay part yes and i just accepted it. But with the loosing attraction in boys yes it happened the day it all started and i was watching youtube videos of sexy guys. And yes it felt like i was attracted to women. I would be scared to look at them afraid that something would happen to me.
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The part of recovery will be when u go from gay to bi.
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@Anonymous help would you feel like you were genuinely attracted? and like you’d feel sensations and anxiety even thinking ab talking to them? and like feeling the urge to kiss them?
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@Anonymous help Wait really? Because that’s how I feel right now. Like for 2-3 months I literally thought I was gay. I had no attraction to any guy (even my bf) and would have constant intrusive thoughts/images and groinal responses. Now my anxiety is much lower and I don’t have as many intrusive thoughts. I’m still dealing with instrusive images and will still get groinal responses but they are soooo much less than before. And now I definitely feel attracted to my bf. So now I’m like what if I’m bi. I don’t really ruminate about it but it still doesn’t feel right. Like I’ll still have moments of anxiety about whether or not I’m attracted to a girl or would I like a girl or if I have a thought/image or groinal response. But it’s a lot better so I’m happy about that. I still don’t feel like myself yet though
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@strawberry ice cream Yes i had urges to kiss or hold hands
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@Whyyocd Yeah it will take a while to jump back into reality but finding attraction with men is a good sign you are on your way back to normal. I love my bf now and get groinal responses now with him. And i dont have anymore images like very rarely
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@Anonymous help Thank you so much 💗
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This is amazing!!! Congratulations babe! 💘 Can I ask how long you had HOCD symtpoms for? Also, did you mind convince you that you were now gay? It’s such an awful Illness.
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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