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for the first few months of me having those thoughts I didn’t know that HOCD was a thing and then I went to a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with ocd and I started looking it up and it started making so much more sense to me so I guess just knowing that many other people have these same intrusive thoughts and are going through the same thing makes me remember that it isn’t real and i’m not alone. I guess I just had to grow out of it in a way but I know how hard it is, you just have to remind yourself that just because you think something, doesn’t mean it’s true. thoughts and even feelings are not reality. just remind yourself of those things!
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It might be worth looking up rocd, some of the thoughts could be related to this as well. I suffer with it, and what I try to do and know has worked for others is accept the thoughts. Don't engage with it - live with the fact you might be a lesbian, and this will eventually stop the anxiety as your brain will learn not to fear it. I know thats hard. And these obsessive thoughts will never stop, but they'll become less frequent and won't bother you. Try seeing a therapist and ERP is proven to be a good treatment too. Good luck
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It is so hard to deal with. I wish it would all go away
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@gfaux yes this same thing has been happening to me too, we will all get through it!
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literally exactly what happened to me the end of last year and I was with my boyfriend for over a year at that point too. it’s been getting better but I know exactly how you feel and how intrusive and scary and annoying it is. you will get through it!
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What did you do to get through it? I am so scared these thoughts will get real,
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Thank you guys so much
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We basically are going through the same thing. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Ive been enjoying our relationship immensely and i know i love him 100%, but then when we were intimate i couldnt focus at all cuz my brain just wasnt there. It was constantly telling me i cant be attracted to him because im not actually attracted to men (which is false) Its the worst and i absolutely hate it. I absolutely emptathize with you in every way i can
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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Im a 21 year old female in a straight relationship with the best guy a girl could ever ask for. About 2 months ago, I went to get coffee with a friend and as I dropped her off, I got a “weird” vibe from her and the look she gave me which lead to the thought of “should I kiss her”….Ive never had a thought like that before and I never have ever wanted to kiss another girl. I have also never had a desire to be with another girl (sexually or romantically). Now though, I have had one other experience of being with a different friend going to get lunch and it felt weird. Ever since then I have been on google non stop with hundreds of different searches, questioning if im lying to myself of my boyfriend, wondering about my past relationships even though Ive only dated boys, been attracted to boys, crushed on boys, etc… boy crazy! Reading on other forums has been a big thing too or doing quizzes. I believe its SO-OCD but im so scared that what if its not. I am in therapy and actually had two weeks of not even thinking about it or googling it until yesterday. I dont know what to do.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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