- Username
- Rose2571
- Date posted
- 5y ago
for the first few months of me having those thoughts I didn’t know that HOCD was a thing and then I went to a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with ocd and I started looking it up and it started making so much more sense to me so I guess just knowing that many other people have these same intrusive thoughts and are going through the same thing makes me remember that it isn’t real and i’m not alone. I guess I just had to grow out of it in a way but I know how hard it is, you just have to remind yourself that just because you think something, doesn’t mean it’s true. thoughts and even feelings are not reality. just remind yourself of those things!
It might be worth looking up rocd, some of the thoughts could be related to this as well. I suffer with it, and what I try to do and know has worked for others is accept the thoughts. Don't engage with it - live with the fact you might be a lesbian, and this will eventually stop the anxiety as your brain will learn not to fear it. I know thats hard. And these obsessive thoughts will never stop, but they'll become less frequent and won't bother you. Try seeing a therapist and ERP is proven to be a good treatment too. Good luck
It is so hard to deal with. I wish it would all go away
@gfaux yes this same thing has been happening to me too, we will all get through it!
literally exactly what happened to me the end of last year and I was with my boyfriend for over a year at that point too. it’s been getting better but I know exactly how you feel and how intrusive and scary and annoying it is. you will get through it!
What did you do to get through it? I am so scared these thoughts will get real,
Thank you guys so much
We basically are going through the same thing. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Ive been enjoying our relationship immensely and i know i love him 100%, but then when we were intimate i couldnt focus at all cuz my brain just wasnt there. It was constantly telling me i cant be attracted to him because im not actually attracted to men (which is false) Its the worst and i absolutely hate it. I absolutely emptathize with you in every way i can
I’m so afraid I might be lesbian. I was very anxious at first but it started to calm down. I’m only 15 and I have a boyfriend I love. At least I think I do, I always chose to question everything and over analyze. I found out about hocd and it described everything I was feeling. I’d take test and read articles like “am I lesbian” but I have never fantasied a girl or wanted to be with a girl sexually or romantically. But what if I’m in denial? I do think girls are physically attractive but I never crushed on a girl. I have always crushed on boys. And liked being with them. I’m just so lost. My anxiety about it had calmed down. But the question is still there sometimes. Earlier today, I found a girl pretty and I got scared thinking that meant something. Then I read about women who have married men, but they know they’re lesbian. I’m scared that that’ll Happen to me. I don’t want to be lesbian. No disrespect. But I just want to be happy. I think I’ve suffered from ocd before. Tell me anyone if I’m wrong. But I used to have thoughts of that my boyfriend would murder me in the future because of theses videos that triggered me. It caused me so much pain and felt so real. That I eventually started to think I’d murder my mom and sister for no reason. I felt so helpless. But I got through it. I hope I get through this. Please any advice? Is this hocd?? Does anyone else feel this way?
Hi there everyone, I’m really struggling with obsessive thoughts over my relationship with my girlfriend. Everything was going so well for the first couple months and one day I started doubting - ever since then I’ve been trying to combat thoughts that our relationship is doomed to fail. I used to love my girlfriend, now I keep getting intrusive anxious thoughts about breaking up with her and scrutinising her appearance. I spent a few years struggling before with HOCD but I’m free of that now, now I feel I’m heading into a spiral of obsession over whether on not this relationship is right. I don’t want my girlfriend to suffer and loose faith in me whilst I act all weird around her. How do I stay present to her and cope through it? Thanks
Hi everyone! I just wanted to see if anyone else felt the way that I did about something related to SO-OCD… I’m finally discovering that I might have this sub genre of OCD and have had it for a very long time. I have always felt awkward around other women especially in more intimate situations (like changing in the same room, laying in bed together or giving compliments about looks). All of this hit me like a ton of bricks when I got into a relationship with my boyfriend 2 years ago and our sex life started to decline after about 9 months of us being together. It makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and I obsess over finding out why I have grown not attracted to him sexually. Am I a lesbian? Am I just depressed? Am I falling out of love with him? Was I ever in love with him? The list goes on and my obsession with it grows stronger. I’m so scared I will have to break up with him because I do love him and love spending time with him. I’m scared to start ERP therapy because I’m worried I’ll realize that it’s best to just let him go 😭
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond