- Username
- flynnyuh
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I too struggle with these exact same thoughts. I am no professional, but your therapist clearly is not educated and I’m sorry she said that. I know how overwhelming this feels. I really do. And I am so sorry you are going through this. According to a lot of people on this app, exposure therapy seems to be helpful. Maybe you could find a therapist that is better versed in this subject and can help you. I wish I could tell you a way to make it stop, but it gets easier once you talk about it with a trusted therapist. This is a hard disorder to battle, but it just takes a lot of time. Sending positive vibes your way 🦄 here is a unicorn because unicorns are amazing lol
^^^ love this!!!
Tysm!! I’ll def try to get an erp therapist. When she said that she triggered a two week ocd episode which is still happening. It’s great to know that she was being ignorant and that I’m not going legally insane (yet) haha.
hey, i was just in this situation. i know EXACTLY how you feel. my therapist doesn’t seem to know how to treat the type of OCD i have, effectively. she said that my OCD (intrusive thoughts) is my alter-ego trying to push through. (i struggle with Harm OCD, Relationship OCD, Real Event OCD, Meta OCD, and sooo many others.) and that’s one thing i’m terrified of. (thinking it’s actually me) but yes, please find yourself a new one!! we don’t need people telling us that kind of stuff.. it only disrupts our hard work and progress. you are loved and cared about. you’re therapist is wrong in every way. and i mean that with no disrespect! i’m gonna try and find one through NOCD. hoping to start the process soon, you should as well!! ❤️💕❤️💕🥰
I think that would be great. I’ve only met her 4 times and each time I’ve came out feeling worse than when I went in. And it’s not because of erp because she doesn’t do that. It’s just that she likes to give information that just makes my ocd worse. She’s a nice gal just not good for me at all. I’m extremely sorry to hear that your therapist said that to you. That is crazy scary and probably triggered your ocd a lot. I hope you find comfort in knowing that that isn’t true. Thank you so much! ❤️
@flynnyuh of course. i love helping in any way i can. my therapist is the same, she means well and is so sweet, but she is not trained in ERP or intrusive thoughts at all. she has valuable knowledge for those who have the other types of OCD, but not me and that’s okay. yes it did trigger me, and i was already going through it. that’s why i met with her. but i didn’t feel too great when i left her office, so i think that it might be time to switch. she’s said many other things that have triggered it as well! and i noticed your other comment, i’m so sorry. please switch whenever you can, i care about your progress! <3
@bellag Ocd is such a horrible disorder. I care about your recovery aswell! I def want to switch but my mom wants me to give her more time. She is definitely not qualified for me though and I can see it already. She has no plans for erp and it sucks. Mine says a lot of things that trigger it and i hope me and you can make it out of this!
@flynnyuh me too! we got this. we just need to stay strong <3 ocd is a terrible disorder, but we can and will fight it.
She also tried to tell me that I shouldn’t labor intrusive feelings as intrusive feelings and to acknowledge them as me. I really hope they aren’t because of puberty because she tried to say they are. That triggered a lot as well because now I’m scared that they are real feelings that I will be stuck with forever/are who I am
hormones can play a part in making the intrusive thoughts WORSE. so trust me. she is very wrong!
@bellag Tyyyyyy
Label not labor*
@flynnyuh you’re welcome :)))
It is definitely important to get a therapist who specializes in ERP and understands OCD. I've had OCD for years but never knew it. I did years of talk therapy and never made any progress. I have made more progress in 2 weeks with my NOCD therapist than I did after years of traditional therapy
I think I’ll def bring up the NOCD therapy to my mom. Can any age do it?
@flynnyuh I'm not sure on that. I think if you are a minor you can do it with the permission of a parent or guardian. But that would be a good question to ask during the initial 15 minute call.
@Lms526 Okay yeah because I’m fourteen. I hope they allow it lol
If she’s said she doesn’t know a lot about OCD absolutely get another therapist. Generic talk therapy does nothing for OCD and can actually encourage mental compulsions
She hasn’t said that she doesn’t but I’ve gone to her for two months now and it’s gotten worse not better. She has not done erp, she’s triggered multiple new fears, and she wants to do some talk therapy thing. My mom just sent her an email to cancel her and i’s appointments
Yes! Before I knew I had OCD. I did years of talk therapy. I tried different therapists and never made much progress. Even though I was doing the worse. The sessions only made things worse. I have made more progress inc2 weeks with my NOCD therapist than I did in several years of talk therapy. It was so frustrating and I never knew why.
@flynnyuh I think that’s a good idea. All therapist’s mean well but OCD is just a complicated illness that needs someone trained in treating it. Some psychologists are also trained in OCD but you just have to find that out up front. Ask what methods they use to treat OCD, if they don’t say ERP, that’s a red flag that they aren’t educated in it
@JessA 🌞 Yeah I think it’s best I seek another person, we went to her before we found out I have ocd. Thank you so much for the advice! <3
@Lms526 I’m so glad that NOCD is working for you. We are going to ask my psychiatrist to ask her who she recommends. I might bring NOCD up to my mom though. Thank you for your advice and help! ❤️
I feel like my head is so messed up. I tell myself, you wouldn't do the things you think about and fear, you have morals. But then I question if my morals are strong enough? Or if my morals have changed at all? I never used to question things like this until my ocd really flared up in the beginning of September, and it's sort of been hell since. Questioning myself, questioning my morals, questioning my intentions, feelings, everything. My main obsession right now is if I find the thoughts enjoyable or not. I feel constantly uncomfortable, uneasy, and anxious. Whenever I see kids in real life I feel fine, I know I'm not attracted to them. But when I'm in my head and the thoughts pop up I question everything and worry that I enjoy them, even though I don't feel bad about kids for the most part in real life? The thoughts are never usually even explicit, it's just like, do you see children in a sexual i ed way? Did you imagine that child in a sexual used way? And I bounce back and forth between being like "no, I'm fine, I know I'm not a pedophile, I find the thought of pedophilia disgusting," and "constant anxiety worrying that I am one and that I only feel anxiety all the time because deep down I know I'm a bad person." Does anyone else share any experiences similar to mine or have any words of wisdom?
I’ve always been a huge feminist, anti-racist, anti-sexual assaulters, etc. Basically against everybody anti-human rights. But because my OCD has been trying to convince me that I’m a sexual assaulter, a pedophile, racist, etc. (basically everything that goes against my morals), it also tries to tell me that I should sympathize with people I used to be against. Sometimes I’ll read about, say, teens committing sexual assault, and in the past I would have firmly said “they need to be punished”, whereas now I think “well, what if they didn’t know better? I made a mistake when I was a teen; what if they thought it was okay?” I never say these out loud because I dont want to make real victims feel bad, obviously. And if I hear someone has been racist, I’ll think, “What if they’re like me?” I still believe we need to eradicate sexual assault, racism, homophobia, etc, but I can’t help but think I’m a part of the problem, so sometimes I find myself sympathizing with “bad people”. It’s really messing my mind up. I don’t know what to think. Does anyone feel the same way or have any tips?
I’ve suddenly developed these obsessive thoughts not even 2 days ago. “What if I’m a pedophile” “what if I want to harm children” I’ve been researching a lot seeing the differences, I can’t sleep or eat because it’s keeping me up. I’ve never had thoughts like these, I’ve never had/don’t have intentions of harming a child or anything like that. But I still have an irrational fear and I don’t know what to do. I just want this to be over and to have reassurance that I’m not and that I’m a normal person but I know that if I do It’s just going to get worst. I’ve never even had thoughts like these before but I question if I did in the past and I didn’t remember. I don’t have access to therapy either I feel like I’m going crazy and I don’t think I’ll get better. I want it to be like how it was before being normal and living my life without this.
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