Hey! There was a post just yesterday relating to this. A ton of people, including myself, have had obsessions with their partner’s past. It’s the worst, and makes me sick to my stomach. ERP has really helped though!
Yes, I experience that as well
Matt Stephenson on You Tube is a great resource.
Yes retroactive jealousy falls under the umbrella of rocd. You are not alone
Block the ex partners. It'll save you alot of heartache. It's harder to go and unblock them than just typing their name in the search bar when you feel propelled to check their page.
I have and unfortunately they have a lot of mutual friends so I see her pretty much everywhere. Thank you for the suggestions 💙💙
@Anonymous Unfortunately it might be necessary to distance urself from the mutual friends for a little bit in order to achieve peace. I wish you the best on your journey goodluck mate xx
When it comes to asking then for reassurance, try to think about how you would feel being in the position where the person you're with is constantly talking or asking about your ex, a little uncomfortable and intrusive isn't it? It could also cause them pain if it was a abusive or toxic relationship of theirs.
I understand however not super helpful when it seems/feels uncontrollable. I don’t ask for reassurance, I keep everything to myself and only in outbursts does it come out how I truly feel. That I don’t feel like an individual in a relationship. Thank you though