Anybody have or heard of something called “Retroactive Jealousy”? I have suffered for quite a while … but no therapist (and I’ve had many) has heard of it. I get lots of strange looks and “well everyone has a past” I’m aware! Mine is rather deep and colorful lol. It mostly looks at an obsession with your partners past. Many compulsions look like social media stalking, verbal reassurance seeking from partner and self assurance seeking from yourself. I’d love to hear from anyone who has this or understands!

Hey! There was a post just yesterday relating to this. A ton of people, including myself, have had obsessions with their partner’s past. It’s the worst, and makes me sick to my stomach. ERP has really helped though!

Yes, I experience that as well

Matt Stephenson on You Tube is a great resource.

Yes retroactive jealousy falls under the umbrella of rocd. You are not alone

Block the ex partners. It'll save you alot of heartache. It's harder to go and unblock them than just typing their name in the search bar when you feel propelled to check their page.

I have and unfortunately they have a lot of mutual friends so I see her pretty much everywhere. Thank you for the suggestions 💙💙

@Anonymous Unfortunately it might be necessary to distance urself from the mutual friends for a little bit in order to achieve peace. I wish you the best on your journey goodluck mate xx

When it comes to asking then for reassurance, try to think about how you would feel being in the position where the person you're with is constantly talking or asking about your ex, a little uncomfortable and intrusive isn't it? It could also cause them pain if it was a abusive or toxic relationship of theirs.