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- 3y ago
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yes, the above for sure! But also remain an active member on this app, because OCD has a great way of making you believe that you’re alone. The community here is invaluable, and you can learn a lot from other people who are going through similar struggles. The next step is to get to know your demons… In other words, do your research on OCD, and do your best to figure out what your compulsions are. Do you research on ERP therapy, and worst case scenario, try to find YouTube videos to guide you through ERP work. ERP work is the gold standard treatment for OCD. While it is favorable to find yourself a therapist trained in ERP to guide you through the steps in the process, it is not technically necessary… So, if your father has denied you getting therapy, that doesn’t mean that you are barred from getting better…Remember, OCD is not treated through standard talk-therapy…. It’s the ERP work that you do for yourself that gets you better, the therapist just explains how you do it. Sending empathy & support. ❤️🩹✨
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- 3y ago
i just want to say thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to comment. i was really sad that he denied me approval. but i will 100% take your advice. i love this app and i love the community so much more. i don’t feel as alone on here! but more than often, i feel very alone. i’m gonna keep doing my research and figure out maybe how to convince him. i really wanted therapy through here. :(( but i’ll try again another time! and i’ll try to talk to my therapist i have right now to see if she can help me switch to a NOCD therapist. i’m at least glad i don’t need permission to be on here, this place is my comfort zone. so, while i’m discouraged that he denied, i’m still grateful for my other resources and lovely, welcoming community. again, thank you so much ❤️❤️💕💕
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@bellag Of course!! This is what the community is for. I’ll speak for myself when I say I also feel very alone and isolated most of the time thanks to my OCD, and at times, hopeless, but I’ll go ahead and guess that many of us on here feel this same way. We are strong individually and together! We can all get through this. This is what I am choosing to believe. Stay supported, @bellag! ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@bellag And yes, try again, but keep at your own research. The world may deny you things, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have the power to bring them into your life, if you so choose. Or, as they say- where there’s a will, there’s a way ❤️🩹☺️
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- 3y ago
@Mixed Chick-Mental Health yes we can! and i’m sorry, you’re never alone. and you’re so loved! 🥰❤️ thank you so much for your kindness ☺️❤️🩹
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- 3y ago
@Mixed Chick-Mental Health very well said and very true, i hope to get through this!! ❤️❤️
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- 3y ago
@bellag Also, it's ok to see more than one therapist at a time, especially if you're working on different things... like seeing a general MD and specialists too. So (parent situation aside, that's a whole other bag) don't feel like you need to "switch" from your current therapist just to be able to work with someone on ERP. Insurance won't limit you to just a single person either.
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- 3y ago
@JoyousEffort okay awesome! i’m under 18, so i needed parent approval in order to get a nocd therapist ☹️.
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- 3y ago
I would recommend talking to your insurance provider, you can find the number online if you have one, you will more than likely speak to a call center rep. They will ask you some general questions, and help you find a pcp if you don’t already have one, then from there schedule an appointment with them, and the doctor can evaluate you, recommend you out to a therapist, and go from there. ❤️ hope this helps.
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i have one right now, but she’s strictly talk therapy. and she isn’t trained in ERP or my type of OCD. but thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement 🥺❤️
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I’m so sorry. It’s a really tough spot you’ve been put into. I would say that it’s important to try to pursue ERP in any way you can. A great thing you could do would be to work through the “mindfulness for OCD” workbook by Jon Herschfield. It’s on Amazon for like $15. It will give you solid tools to self-treat your OCD with ERP. The awesome thing about ERP is once you know how to do it, you can do it on your own. Good luck! You aren’t alone ❤️
- Date posted
- 3y ago
yay! thank you so much. i’ll definitely check that book out!! 🥰🥰
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
:(((((
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- 3y ago
i’m in the same situation you’re in right now! you’re not alone <:)
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- 3y ago
i’m so sorry :( but it will all be okay, we will get the help we deserve!
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I would harass your dad until he allows you to get the help you need. Or have your therapist explain why it’s so important. Don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself. When I am in desparate need of help I ask and ask and ask until my needs are met.
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i know i probably should do this. he just feels as if i already have enough therapy. but when i meet with my other therapist i’m going to discuss with her. maybe she can talk to him about it
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@HappyTurtle yes!! i am going to do this my next appointment. i’ve checked it out before but could never engage with it. i never recognized that talk therapy could do that! but it 100% makes sense now that i think about it. i’ve left her office probably feeling worse than i’ve felt better! i really need a therapist who specializes in OCD
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