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- 3y
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 3y
Yes, the above for sure! But also remain an active member on this app, because OCD has a great way of making you believe that you’re alone. The community here is invaluable, and you can learn a lot from other people who are going through similar struggles. The next step is to get to know your demons… In other words, do your research on OCD, and do your best to figure out what your compulsions are. Do you research on ERP therapy, and worst case scenario, try to find YouTube videos to guide you through ERP work. ERP work is the gold standard treatment for OCD. While it is favorable to find yourself a therapist trained in ERP to guide you through the steps in the process, it is not technically necessary… So, if your father has denied you getting therapy, that doesn’t mean that you are barred from getting better…Remember, OCD is not treated through standard talk-therapy…. It’s the ERP work that you do for yourself that gets you better, the therapist just explains how you do it. Sending empathy & support. ❤️🩹✨
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- 3y
i just want to say thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to comment. i was really sad that he denied me approval. but i will 100% take your advice. i love this app and i love the community so much more. i don’t feel as alone on here! but more than often, i feel very alone. i’m gonna keep doing my research and figure out maybe how to convince him. i really wanted therapy through here. :(( but i’ll try again another time! and i’ll try to talk to my therapist i have right now to see if she can help me switch to a NOCD therapist. i’m at least glad i don’t need permission to be on here, this place is my comfort zone. so, while i’m discouraged that he denied, i’m still grateful for my other resources and lovely, welcoming community. again, thank you so much ❤️❤️💕💕
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 3y
@bellag Of course!! This is what the community is for. I’ll speak for myself when I say I also feel very alone and isolated most of the time thanks to my OCD, and at times, hopeless, but I’ll go ahead and guess that many of us on here feel this same way. We are strong individually and together! We can all get through this. This is what I am choosing to believe. Stay supported, @bellag! ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 3y
@bellag And yes, try again, but keep at your own research. The world may deny you things, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have the power to bring them into your life, if you so choose. Or, as they say- where there’s a will, there’s a way ❤️🩹☺️
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@Mixed Chick-Mental Health yes we can! and i’m sorry, you’re never alone. and you’re so loved! 🥰❤️ thank you so much for your kindness ☺️❤️🩹
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@Mixed Chick-Mental Health very well said and very true, i hope to get through this!! ❤️❤️
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@bellag Also, it's ok to see more than one therapist at a time, especially if you're working on different things... like seeing a general MD and specialists too. So (parent situation aside, that's a whole other bag) don't feel like you need to "switch" from your current therapist just to be able to work with someone on ERP. Insurance won't limit you to just a single person either.
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@JoyousEffort okay awesome! i’m under 18, so i needed parent approval in order to get a nocd therapist ☹️.
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- 3y
I would recommend talking to your insurance provider, you can find the number online if you have one, you will more than likely speak to a call center rep. They will ask you some general questions, and help you find a pcp if you don’t already have one, then from there schedule an appointment with them, and the doctor can evaluate you, recommend you out to a therapist, and go from there. ❤️ hope this helps.
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i have one right now, but she’s strictly talk therapy. and she isn’t trained in ERP or my type of OCD. but thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement 🥺❤️
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I’m so sorry. It’s a really tough spot you’ve been put into. I would say that it’s important to try to pursue ERP in any way you can. A great thing you could do would be to work through the “mindfulness for OCD” workbook by Jon Herschfield. It’s on Amazon for like $15. It will give you solid tools to self-treat your OCD with ERP. The awesome thing about ERP is once you know how to do it, you can do it on your own. Good luck! You aren’t alone ❤️
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yay! thank you so much. i’ll definitely check that book out!! 🥰🥰
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
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- 3y
:(((((
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i’m in the same situation you’re in right now! you’re not alone <:)
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i’m so sorry :( but it will all be okay, we will get the help we deserve!
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I would harass your dad until he allows you to get the help you need. Or have your therapist explain why it’s so important. Don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself. When I am in desparate need of help I ask and ask and ask until my needs are met.
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i know i probably should do this. he just feels as if i already have enough therapy. but when i meet with my other therapist i’m going to discuss with her. maybe she can talk to him about it
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- 3y
@HappyTurtle yes!! i am going to do this my next appointment. i’ve checked it out before but could never engage with it. i never recognized that talk therapy could do that! but it 100% makes sense now that i think about it. i’ve left her office probably feeling worse than i’ve felt better! i really need a therapist who specializes in OCD
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- 22w
Please read this. I’ve had ocd pretty much a lot of my life but never knew what it was until my senior year of highschool. I’m 21 with 2 kids and i believe i’ve had pocd a little bit before my daughter was born (which was 8 months ago). It made me start looking at all kids differently and i hate it. But it really started triggering me about 3 months ago. I’ve been thinking if i’d intentionally touched or harmed my kids the wrong way, or any kids for that matter. This started giving me false memories (or at least hope they are). I’ve been having panic attacks, yelling at myself, punching walls, praying, and even thoughts of ending my own life. I grew up in a severe toxic household throughout my childhood and teenage life. I’ve never wished that on my kids since i became a dad. I wanna give them the life i never got. I look back my photos of my children and i feel like i’m a complete fraud of a dad. I cannot look at my kids or be around them a lot of times. I can’t hold my daughter right. I can’t change their diaper when they need it. Even my son came and was hugging on me the other night while i was watching tv and i acted like a stranger to him. I can very little do this stuff sometimes because it’s either i get relief or i push my thoughts as far back as i can. I get scared if i did something to not just my kids, but any other kids in the past. I have such a a great life and such a beautiful family. It was hard and stressful at first being young with a family but i couldn’t be more thankful at all for them. I’m just so lost and stressed right now that i just don’t know what to do anymore
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- 20w
I get asked about the name NOCD a lot. People might want to know how it’s pronounced, and they’re curious about our story. Every time, I’m excited to share a bit about what the name means—in fact, it’s an opportunity for me to talk about something everyone should know about OCD. First things first: it’s pronounced “No-CD.” And it actually means a couple things, both central to our mission: To restore hope for people with OCD through better awareness and treatment. The first meaning of our name is about awareness: Know OCD. Though we’ve come a long way, not enough people truly know what OCD is or what it’s like. How many times have you heard someone say “Don’t be so OCD about that,” or “I wish I had a little OCD. My car is a mess!” Things like that may seem innocent, but they trivialize the condition and keep most people with OCD—around 8 million in the US alone—from getting the help they need. The second meaning of NOCD is about treatment: No-CD. To go a bit deeper: Say “No” to the compulsive disorder. On one level, this is also related to knowing OCD—noto means “to know” in Latin. This inspired the name NOTO, the operations and technology infrastructure that powers NOCD the way an engine powers a vehicle. But this meaning goes even further. It has to do with how you can manage OCD symptoms—learning to resist compulsions. This is the foundation of exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy, the most effective, evidence-based form of treatment for OCD. Learning how to resist compulsions with ERP changed my life, and it taught me how important it is to get treatment from a specialty-trained therapist who truly understands how OCD works. I’ll give you an example. When I was 20, my life was going according to plan. I was thriving on the field as a college quarterback, doing well in school, even winning awards—until OCD struck out of nowhere. I started having taboo intrusive thoughts, things that horrified me and went against my core values and beliefs. Desperate for help, I saw several different therapists—but no one diagnosed me with OCD. At one point, I was instructed to snap a rubber band against my wrist whenever I had an intrusive thought. It was supposed to stop the thoughts, but it only made my symptoms worse. Driven into severe depression, I had to put my entire life on pause. Once I started ERP with a therapist who understood OCD, I learned why: you can’t stop intrusive thoughts from occurring. Everyone has them—and the more you try to get rid of them, the worse they get. Anything you do to suppress them is actually a compulsion, whether it’s counting in your head, snapping a rubber band against your wrist, or using substances to drown the thoughts out. To get better, you have to learn to resist compulsions and accept uncertainty. OCD doesn’t get to decide how you live your life. How do you educate the people in your life about OCD? Whether friends, family, or strangers, I’d love to hear how you share your understanding and raise awareness about OCD.
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- 18w
i am starting NOCD therapy on monday and was just curious on others’ experiences! what happens in your sessions, generally speaking? how do you feel during and after? i’m excited but also nervous to start. i’ve been in talk therapy for years with minimal improvement with my ocd, so im hopeful to start feeling better.
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