Please answer!! Any other girls with HOCD here and terrified to hangout with boys alone? I have always been scared to hangout with guys alone & my HOCD is using this as proof I’m just gay and in denial? Someone plz relate I feel like I’m spiraling

Same! It takes a few hang outs to feel more comfortable

Yes, I do. Thank u!

Is this something u struggle with?

@cc97 Unfortunately yes, i feel terrified to be near any man alone, it doesn't even have to be in a romantic sense

@alexisrae1999 SAME!!

@cc97 Especially middle aged white men 😂

@alexisrae1999 Honestly 🙃 mine is like all men which is so difficult when trying to date. There is this one boy I’ve been into but I can only hangout with him with my friends around because I know I have some sort of protection if I need it. It’s so difficult :/

@cc97 Yes! I understand the need to feel protected and not alone!

@alexisrae1999 Do you have a boyfriend?

@alexisrae1999 Whenever I'm into someone I get a little sassy as a defense mechanism because im scared of being taken advantage of 🤷‍♀️

@alexisrae1999 Wait seriously same!!

@cc97 Not at the moment, been single since january and just been working on me. :) I'd like to date again but I'm scared because of how my last relationship went

@alexisrae1999 I’ve been single for awhile now & it makes me think it’s just because I’m in denial. The whole trauma with guys doesn’t help either.

@cc97 That's okay girl take all the time you need! Practice erp to that feeling of the possibility of being in denial. And remember that you didn't ask for your trauma, it was given to you and its not your fault! :)

@alexisrae1999 How do u do ERP?

@cc97 Just practice accepting that the thoughts are there, feel whatever anxiety or sensations you need to feel and let it pass

@alexisrae1999 Thank u! Do y mind if I follow u on Insta?

@cc97 Not at all go ahead!:) you're welcome! Today's been one of those days that have been a little more difficult to not do compulsions but its because I'm stressed