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Please still date girls! Don’t let the thoughts win
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I don't intend to. But it my thoughts are telling me I like men's genitals aswel. But it always just upsets me 😞
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I definitely can’t date or love on a man I am married tried acting on my HOCD when I was younger thinking I was gay and I am in fact straight I don’t even check out men, I do carry a shit ton of shame and guilt for trying something but I can’t change my past I would go back to before I got sick if I could change my past.
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Yes mate ... we have spoke before. Its weird it just doesn't line up. I had my inkckling that's I was gonna end up thoughts like this as a boy or teenager and then suddenly in my 20s bam out of knowwhere and now it's on my mind constantly at the age of 38. FYI the penis thing only started about a year ago and wanting to be with a man. Could this just be severe ocd ....I'm not sure 😔
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Good and bad days to be honest. Me and my gf have split up but I'm OK about it. It's just this going on. I don't want to start dating again because I feel like I'm leading them on with this going on. But I still have the want for women. I don't want to give into this shit 😒
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You and your GF broke up
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Because of the OCD?
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Are you on medication
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It's Tommy...do you remember?
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Yeah man how have you been
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Yeah if you can call it that. I really do doubt it. I've even tried accepting but I just can't I literally can't
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Can’t accept what
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@Bryan I just don't know what to do mate
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Being gay or bi or whatever. I just don't want this in my life. I just don't see how I get back to myself I don't know where how this ends. And start dating again
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You have to stop trying to figure it out. OCD won’t let you
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@Day513 Exactly
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@Bryan What shall I do about dating girls I still have the want there. But I don't want to lead anyone on if it is true ?. My last relationship was toxic and I was emotionally abused by my ex I think this might have played a factor in this getting worse ?
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@Ihateocd83 If you don’t date, you will let OCD win. You have to keep living your life like before
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@Day513 Could a bad relationship have made my ocd worse ?. Some days I'm so close to just going fuck I must be gay. It makes no sense the way I used to feel about girls it's so upsetting 😞
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@Day513 This is 100% true
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@Ihateocd83 There are many things that can trigger OCD and your symptoms. There are both environmental factors and mental factors that are affecting your ability to cope. I suggest some trauma therapy if your OCD is that bad. Especially if you were in a toxic relationship
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@Ihateocd83 I know spend a lot of time on this app ruminating looking for reassurance your not gay or whatever, you need to learn to live by your values and not your OCD. You need to spend time with your son or your kids you have values Tommy your OCD is violating your core values you are in fact straight.
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What is mate ?
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What is what
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What's 100% true ?
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Are you attracted to men
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@Bryan Feels like it yes ...... when you say attracted what do you mean? Do I want to pursue men ?
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@Ihateocd83 Yeah
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@Bryan How can I date women with this going on mate.... its not fair on the woman 😞
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@Ihateocd83 I don’t know but what I do know is that me sitting on this app does not help anything it makes me worse
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@Ihateocd83 This shit sucks
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@Bryan Yeah your right. I just don't trust my mind. I just don't want to feel like this anymore. I used to be so into women like probably to much like a dog on heat. And now I'm here it makes no sense 😞
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No I don't. But of course my mind tells me different 😔
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I’ve tried accepting the uncertainty, I’ve accepted I may be gay, bi or still straight. I’ve tried doing ERP myself to the best I can. When I accept that I’m gay or bi why doesn’t my head agree and move on? Why does it still question it? I know I don’t want to be at all. I love my family. But I just want this to move on. I want to enjoy life. Why can’t I find women attractive again? (Brief moments I do). I seriously don’t understand the false attraction? I’ve tried agreeing with it but it won’t let this drop. Why am I attracted to the same sex? Why am I attracted to people I would never thought of looking at? Why does it give me such grief about this? I know I shouldn’t look at adult content but why can I only feel good watching either lesbian or females? I tried to agree with the gay but it makes me sick and horrendous I even considered this? I just want my life back.
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im so scared that this is just denial and that im actuall gay. idk what to do anymore i need help. its just constant anxiety in my chest and i hate it. is there anything i can do to help?
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So I haven’t been on this app in a while. But I just want advice on how to overcome this. I’m now 18 and I’ve been trying out dating apps. I’m not gonna lie I’m kinda picky when it comes to dating only because I plan on dating to marry…so I take it a bit more seriously. But for some reason it’s so hard to click with people on these dating apps. So my friend was helping me through this dating apps process. I told her that I wasn’t interested in this guy I was texting anymore because of the way he was responding to my messages. And she says maybe you’re gay…this is honestly the sixth time (I’m definitely over exaggeration but this isn’t the first time someone had said this to me) someone has ask/said this. Every time someone says this it literally sends me down this spiral of are they seeing something I’m not seeing. Despite never having a crush on a girl my mind goes down this loop of overthinking. And when I say I don’t want that lifestyle or I don’t really find pleasure in being apart of the lgbtq community my mind is like in denial. I just wanted to have a fun teenage dating experience and now every time I open the app I always think what if I really am gay and I’m just in denial…or what if the reason why I’m not connecting with anyone is because I’m really into girls. Since i’m also religious, my mom wants to go what you’re denying who we are because of your religion. And I tried to reassure myself by saying I would know if that was the case like I would feel deep down who I’m truly attracted to and know that I’m trying to cover it up by dating men. This whole thing is so mentally taxing because I was going through this all throughout my senior year of high school and I’m not going into my freshman year of college so. Like I literally felt so much anxiety next to one of my classmates who was gay and a masculine presenting. I feel like if I would’ve told this to anyone, they’d say of course you’re in denial. But ig reply if you can relate
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