pluralines
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- 3y
YoureNotAloneYoureNotAlone
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- 3y
Yes! Immensely! I keep thinking how SO OCD must be perceived from their end, oh it’s just denial, you’re not accepting your truth, etc. And recently since I am starting NOCD I have been very judgemental of myself and my thoughts that ERP is just conversion therapy which I am so against. I am such an advocate for everyone to be themselves and express who they are and have always supported that and now I feel guilty and disingenuous. Thank you for sharing this.
YoureNotAloneYoureNotAlone
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- 3y
Maybe this is a reassurance, but at the end of the day, I feel like LGBT+ community would support the notion that we just want to be happy with ourselves and be true to ourselves and we are struggling. I feel like acceptance is the core tenet of that community !
WhatabtmeWhatabtme
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- 3y
I have had the same fears about erp therapy for soocd. I think at the end of the day though, there's a big difference between erp (where you accept anxiety and act on what you value, acknowledging the complexity of sexuality) and real inversion therapy, which is a literal form of denial and thought suppression. Remember, erp is the opposite of thought suppression. Erp is accepting all feelings and thoughts and moving forward acting on what we value. I know how ocd can latch onto that though and how scary it is <3
YoureNotAloneYoureNotAlone
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- 3y
@Whatabtme How insightful. Great way to look at it. Thank you
WhatabtmeWhatabtme
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- 3y
Yes absolutely. It's very difficult my best friend in the world is gay and some of my close friends are members if the lgbtqia+ community, as am I bc I would call myself bisexual if I had I had use a label. I feel a lot of guilt and shame because my ocd makes me feel like people would find those intrusive thoughts to be phobic. It's why I don't share my ocd with my friends for the most part.
BryanBryan
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- 3y
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