does anyone struggle with the guilt that comes with having soocd and being an lgbt+ ally?

Yes! Immensely! I keep thinking how SO OCD must be perceived from their end, oh it’s just denial, you’re not accepting your truth, etc. And recently since I am starting NOCD I have been very judgemental of myself and my thoughts that ERP is just conversion therapy which I am so against. I am such an advocate for everyone to be themselves and express who they are and have always supported that and now I feel guilty and disingenuous. Thank you for sharing this.

Maybe this is a reassurance, but at the end of the day, I feel like LGBT+ community would support the notion that we just want to be happy with ourselves and be true to ourselves and we are struggling. I feel like acceptance is the core tenet of that community !

I have had the same fears about erp therapy for soocd. I think at the end of the day though, there's a big difference between erp (where you accept anxiety and act on what you value, acknowledging the complexity of sexuality) and real inversion therapy, which is a literal form of denial and thought suppression. Remember, erp is the opposite of thought suppression. Erp is accepting all feelings and thoughts and moving forward acting on what we value. I know how ocd can latch onto that though and how scary it is <3

@Whatabtme How insightful. Great way to look at it. Thank you

Yes absolutely. It's very difficult my best friend in the world is gay and some of my close friends are members if the lgbtqia+ community, as am I bc I would call myself bisexual if I had I had use a label. I feel a lot of guilt and shame because my ocd makes me feel like people would find those intrusive thoughts to be phobic. It's why I don't share my ocd with my friends for the most part.