Hi guys! So I have a question :) so my thoughts keep telling me to break up. This is new for me because normally it would be an urge. But now it feels that I don’t care that they are saying that. They bothered me more so this morning but now that I’ve let them be there it doesn’t seem to be bothering me. Any insight on this?

Yea, you did ERP correctly, and now the thoughts don’t scare you. Basically you are recovered. Eventually if you keep not responding, those thoughts will either go away or come less frequently

But I should note: don’t be alarmed if there is a back door spike. Just use the same technique you’ve been doing and it will be diffused again.

Keep doing that! Sit with the discomfort

I thought this because I felt so numb to the relationship and my boyfriend and I are on a break now and as soon as that happened I had a break down because I really regretted it

Also I learned that you need to expose yourself to your triggers. And your boyfriend might be your trigger for all your instructive thoughts and yes it’s a lot and feels draining but you need to face them and do ERP so you learn how to get past them. If you break up with him you won’t be able to do that

I don’t want to break up with him haha. My brain is just doing it’s thing and I was just wondering if that was good progress to not feel threatened by them :) thank you! ❤️

That means it’s working! Back door spikes are common and it’s OCD’s nasty way of trying to hook you back into anxiety.