With ROCD how do you enjoy the moment with your significant other? I’m constantly feeling pressure to decide and make a decision how I feel. And I feel like the feeling gets worse when we are together or doing something as a couple. They are still there when we aren’t hanging out but I’m able to tell myself it’s just thoughts. It’s just way harder when I’m actively doing something as a couple (I hope this makes sense)

I don’t think they fully have yet. This is all still new to me. I just have hope they will soon because I know they are there

I feel youuuuu

You’re doing exactly what I was doing for the past month. Me telling myself “I don’t know if we will go back to what we had” brought so much fear to my brain and it made a lot of my thoughts worst. I feared that I’m dragging someone along in a relationship when it could be a waste of time or how fucked up it is that this person loves me so much and he has no one what’s going on in my head.

@diane_ You have to try to train your head and be like “Hey! Stop it! It’s just a thought, it’s not a fact” “I’m not in danger” “Maybe this isn’t meant to be BUT it’s worth trying”

@diane_ I still get very scary thoughts but trying to tell myself those things^ have definitely kept me from spiraling and getting more instructive thoughts

@diane_ Sorry I know that was a lot, I hope it helps :)

Trust me it wasn’t easy and I am no where near much better than I was but I have seen progress. I started watching YouTube videos to educate myself on ROCD and regular OCD videos on tips to deal with instructive thoughts and the more tips I heard on what to say to yourself it slowly started to help. In my notes on my phone I have a list of things to repeat when I have an instructive thought and I force myself to say “just sit with this thought don’t do anything else”

@diane_ Then I noticed I was watching videos as a reassurance so I stopped for a few days and used the tools I already had. It’s hard, but play around with a few things and you’ll learn what works best for you

@diane_ Sorry last thing! LOL I wish someone told me all this a month ago so I’m happy to help someone else out if possible! I learned I needed to stop saying to myself “why do I feel this way” “what caused this” “when will it stop” etc allll thought is so bad for you. It’s showing that you are scared to your brain

@diane_ I’m getting married in 8 days and my ROCD has destroyed me. This is all I’ve ever wanted and one tiny thought triggered a major fear response and I’ve been spiraling ever since. I’m terrified I’ll see my fiancé as I’m walking down the isle and be filled with doubt and fear.

@diane_ Thank you so much! I’m going to try your tips!