sebrenaw
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- 4y
SunsetAquarius78SunsetAquari...
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- 4y
What do you exactly want reassurance about
sebrenawsebrenaw
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- 4y
That everything will be okay of course, and that my partner won’t break up with me. And I know I’m not supposed to ask for reassurance like that
LisaP99LisaP99
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- 4y
@sebrenaw This is so me! I’ll feel like I’m not worthy of him and I’m a burden especially with my ocd to him. It’s a given, he’s done with me! I do sometimes use a sleep aid bc I need sleep to manage my OCD. Sometimes a good night’s rest is enough for me to get perspective. I stop fighting the thoughts and feelings and accept that my ocd is going to be with me all day, I’m going to be very uncomfortable but I’m going about my day. I’ll write out a list of things I need to do and I start doing them. Eventually a thought will come to me from my skill set and I’ll turn a corner. It differs but once I was in misery and working in my yard, then I remembered a feeling of self confidence and it was enough to get me out. Another time again I was working in my yard and crying and then I remembered an affirmation “letting go can be fun”. Basically I live my life, I’m okay with the discomfort and I carry “her heavy butt” around all day. And most importantly I don’t do the compulsions.
sebrenawsebrenaw
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- 4y
@LisaP99 Very interesting!!! I usually kick any positive or neutral thoughts away because I feel like I don’t deserve them, lol, but I’ll take your advice!!! Thank you 🙏🏻
LisaP99LisaP99
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- 4y
@sebrenaw I hate that you’re feeling this way though. It’s the worst to be in. But I’d thought I share with you where I found that advice. It’s one of Dr McGrath’s webinars. https://youtu.be/tvThdkURFWw For me sometimes saying “maybe, maybe not” or “I totally agree” to thoughts will help but the really sticky ones, it’s just a waiting game.
MM
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- 4y
I am literally in the exact same spot!! Been two days of agony and I’m trying to find a way to get things normalized. I am getting pinged so frequently (literally every second) that I can’t seem to intervene. I continue to focus on meditation and observing my mind without reaction or attaching meaning to my thoughts.
sebrenawsebrenaw
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- 4y
Thank you for commenting this!!! I have tried meditation but I cannot silence my mind— any tips?
MM
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- 4y
@sebrenaw Sounds like we are a real pair - I have the same problem. The one thing that seems to help me is to focus solely on my breathing. As intently as possible I breathe in, hold it, breathe out, hold it, and then repeat (this is called box breathing - I usually do a 4 count on each step). As I settle my mind a bit with technique then I will begin to sense what is happening in my body. Remember: every thought->emotion has a corresponding reaction in the body. Spend time sitting in the body and exploring those sensations. Finally, there is a great album that Above and Beyond did with Elena Brower (it’s a guided meditation). I would highly recommend it.
sebrenawsebrenaw
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- 4y
I’ll look into that!!! Thank you so much for all of your input. I hope things get easier for you too ❤️
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