Okay so I have a bad habit of imagining scenarios and gauging my responses to them to see what I like and I just saw a picture of Megan Fox like touching tongues with her boyfriend and I tried to imagine that I was doing it with her and I felt so many groinal responses and now I don’t know what to do. I am panicking slightly. I don’t want to just label it a groinal response because what if it was real arousal? Like I’m scared that I’m just in denial by labelling it a groinal response, brushing it off as a groinal response seems like something someone gay in denial would do. I’m so ANGRY, why can’t I just know who I am

Sexual Orientation OCD

eugenia

Date posted: 4y

Guys, I read about your groinal responses and I get a groinal response on that 😂😂 See, this is ridiculous😅

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Hahahaha exactly

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Good news is that groinal responses mean absolutely nothing. And if you’re testing yourself for arousal, it’s just too much pressure. If you’re checking to make sure nothing happens when you think of the being with someone of the same sex, you’ll almost definitely get a groinal response. If you’re trying to make sure you feel something when thinking of someone of the opposite gender, you probably won’t feel anything. The best thing to do is stop putting on the pressure and dismissing any groinal responses as meaningless because they really are meaningless. Your ocd is making you put gravity on your groinal responses and making you believe that having a groinal response dictates your sexual ortientation.

b13

Date posted: 4y

I’ve read things like this since it very first started. But it’s hard for me to grasp because I just can’t stop thinking how do I know this is really the case for me? what if that is all just one big lie I’m telling myself cos I’m ‘so in denial/repressed’?

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

@Pain😢🥺 It’s really difficult to tell the difference between groinal responses and arousal. Ocd feels so real! :(

b13

Date posted: 4y

@Anonymous That is so scary because I don’t know what I’m supposed to do now :(

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

@b13 I’m sorry if what I said triggered you. Definitely didn’t mean to do that. I encourage you to try ERP and see a therapist specializing in OCD if you’re not already. That way you can get professional advice. From my own experience, something I’ve found comforting is that I am completely in charge of which thoughts and sensations I want to give meaning to and which to casually dismiss as meaningless. Only I have that power, and that is a good feeling.

Jon w/ OCD

Date posted: 4y

This could be a good ERP exercise. Do this and just let the groinals happen and don’t put any meaning to them.

b13

Date posted: 4y

Is that not irresponsible if I’m denying my ‘true self’ though? I don’t want to live in denial because I know that’s not healthy but I have been doing this for 7 years and I can’t figure it out and I can’t do it anymore!! sorry to vent to you

Jon w/ OCD

Date posted: 4y

@b13 That’s the thing. Clearly this is distressing to you regardless if it’s what you “really” want. By not giving them attention you learn to no longer associate the groinal response with fear and shame

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