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wangoose
35d ago
  • Relationship OCD

my brain keeps saying “what if there’s someone better than my boyfriend” like i know that there’s no one better than him but what if? and my brain is like “his best friend has some better minor traits than him so maybe he’s better for you? like no i don’t want him he’s not compatible with me and i feel happy with my boyfriend. his friend isnt the best looking but he is nice but my brain keeps saying “what if he was better looking? would you like him?” ughhhh, i’m scared i don’t wanna have these “the grass is greener on the other side” thoughts

BlueMountain
35d ago
It’s normal to think these thoughts. Everyone has thoughts like these. But the only reason they feel so upsetting and real is because your ocd points it out to you and does whatever it can to make you feel bad for them. You clearly love your boyfriend very much and if you didn’t, you wouldn’t even have these thoughts. Because your ocd goes after whatever you really care about. That means you care about him a ton!
wangoose
35d ago
ah!! thank you that was a good eye opener :D
BlueMountain
35d ago
@wangoose You’re welcome! I’m glad I could help you feel better! Your thoughts are very normal and you don’t need to feel guilty at all! But don’t try to fight them or seek reassurance. That just makes you ruminate on them more. I hope you and your boyfriend have a very happy relationship! :)
wangoose
34d ago
@BlueMountain thank you!! have a great day :))