Does anybody have any advice? The intrusive thoughts and groinal responses have really affected me… Even when I’m not anxious and not having thoughts or groinal responses. It’s like a part of me is lost or like un sure… In my head I’m like “can you really go back to “knowing” you’re straight or feeling like how you use to?” It does feel like I won’t ever be the same. Like I can’t see things the same. I don’t know what to do.

Definitely understand wanting to go back being carefree and in love. I have a boyfriend and I see him in 2 weeks. I’m worried about a bunch of things but mostly worried that I’m not gonna feel the same… but what hurts most is that I believe none of this would be happening if it weren’t for my theme happening in June

@Whyyocd What do you mean about June? I'm not sure I understand the connection

@Whatabtme June 2021 is when I started having intrusive thoughts about whether or not I was gay. “What if I’m gay?” and etc. Like I would be questioning “what if I don’t feel the same about my boyfriend when he comes back?” and a bunch of other what’s ifs, if I didn’t have SOOCD

@Whyyocd Oh ok I understand now, yeah I'm sure that's super triggering for you, maybe even traumatic

@Whyyocd My hardest thing is intimacy, I can never see it the same way again, it scares me, I don't enjoy it cause all I think about is dreading the soocd comes up if I get intimate with my bf

@Whatabtme I honestly do want to say it’s traumatic because of the constant intrusive images and scenarios and groinal responses with like any woman. It could be somebody passing by, someone I was talking to, social media, and etc. but I feel dumb for saying that because of real traumatic experiences. I just hope I don’t ruin my relationship 😞

@Whatabtme Are you in therapy? Yeahhhhh I’m a virgin and I’m also worried about intimacy because of SOOCD but also because of normal virgin worries

@Whyyocd It's not dumb, ocd is definitely traumatic! No one deserves to go through it but it doesn't stop it from happening unfortunately. I have felt that way many times like I'm gonna ruin my relationship but I just wanna tell you that won't happen, it's not possible to "ruin" a relationship bc of ocd, that's your ocd trying to guilt you. Believe me when I say that ocd happens to us, it's not something we choose, sending compassion your way and hope you can share a little compassion with yourself too 💜having ocd doesn't make us bad

@Whatabtme Thank you so much 🥺💗

@Whyyocd Yes I'm in therapy with nocd. I completed the 12 week part of it back in the spring and have been doing checkups with my nocd therapist about once a month since then

@Whatabtme I know therapists tell us to let the thought pass even during an intimate moment :/ maybe when you’re having a really good day, you can be spontaneously intimate with your boyfriend! And then it’ll be easier to not associate those thoughts with intimacy

@Whyyocd That's a great suggestion! Thank you :)

@Whatabtme You’re welcome :)

@Whyyocd hello, im in the same situation right now how do you feal today?

@syl47 I actually don’t deal with SOOCD anymore :) I might have some passing intrusive thoughts every once in awhile but it’s basically gone

@Whyyocd so happy for you! how did you do it ?

@syl47 Thank you! It’s obviously a lot easier said than done but I accepted the possibility that I could be Bi. I’ll still have moments where I question what all the thoughts and etc meant but with ERP it really helped a lot and I have a boyfriend and know I want to be with a man ❤️