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What happened to me was two things. I was attracted to other men in my relationship which made me uncomfortable and I sub pressed my sex drive because of it two I was able to recognize when a woman was physically attractive but it’s not like I wanted to do anything
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So I’m dealing with relationship ocd and sexual orientation ocd. I’ve been in a long term relationship and I love my boyfriend. But when this all started I questioned if I loved my boyfriend and if I was even attracted to him. Then my so ocd kicked in when I remembered things from my childhood of me thinking some female celebrities were so pretty and etc and not I feel like my whole life is a lie and what if I’m gay. It really makes me spiral out of control honestly because I feel like I need an answer. Growing up when I would find a girl attracted I always thought of it in a way of being jealous like oh I wish I was that pretty not that I would want a romantic relationship. But now I also question that too
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Same here. A book called Brain Lock helped despite it not having examples of ROCD and SOOCD, it still applies. Also Chrissie Hodges youtube videos help a lot, like really a lot, she explains what's "normal" for SOOCD and that it's not you but your brain. I also did self exposures like online shopping, watching TV that I had been avoiding and now I'm having more good days than bad
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It started with a wave of bad thoughts about a friend. That day I had cried and panicked over it, I didn't want to feel like that towards that person. The next day I saw my girlfriend and that helped me a lot. But then she left to go home and that made the doubt return. I'd say it's been hell. Since then my girlfriend broke up with me because she lost feelings for me and didn't tell me so she faked it for a month. So I feel somewhat lost at times but I got diagnosed recently so thats kept me somewhat stable. I miss the simplicity of knowing. What helps is living life, try to ignore the feeling of wanting to stay in bed and just loath. You gotta pick yourself up.
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The simplicity of knowing. Yup I feel that you said it perfectly. My ocd just makes me think that ocd is a cult against gay people and turning to make me not gay. Now I know that’s not true, but when I’m in a bad eposide and my “what if’s” start that’s what comes to my head and it just gets really bad because I think my whole life is a lie.
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Thank you though this helped a lot. You got this!
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- 20w
Can sexual orientation ocd make you act on your fears and make you have same sex experiences ever and then after the experience realize that’s not what you are or want?
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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As a lesbian with SO-OCD, I feel so helpless. It's truly exhausting because no one I know understands what I'm going through. The first response is always, "You're just confused" or "You don't have to know yet." But that's not the issue, I do know. I just never see any lesbians with SO-OCD so I feel so invalidated. These thoughts flood my brain constantly, forcing me to analyze my reactions to every man I see. I feel trapped in an endless cycle of "testing" myself, trying to prove that I don't like them. But my brain fights back, telling me I do want to love a man, making it feel real even though don't want it. It's terrifying. At this point, it's hard to even hold onto my identity as a lesbian because I'm so overwhelmed. I don't know if this is what real attraction is supposed to feel like, and that fear eats away at me. The truth is, when I think about being with a man, all I feel is disgust and fear-but my brain twists that into doubt. I hate it. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'm going to have to accept something I don't want because I don't know if this will ever go away. I miss who I was before all this.
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