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Ocd thoughts are ego dystonic thoughts meaning that they do not align with who we are or what we believe in. These thoughts cause the sufferer a great deal of anxiety and doubt until a compulsion is performed that dissipates this anxiety.Now, many people aren't aware of the fact that reassurance-seeking is in fact a compulsion (which is what you are doing btw). The only thing that you can do is to accept these thoughts.Ruminating on these thoughts will make them stronger and the anxiety will never cease to exist. Trust me when I tell you this : Accept the thoughts and agree with the uncertainty they present. It will feel terrible and you will feel defeated but, over time the anxiety comes down and the thoughts will no longer have any hold on you. I hope you found this helpful.
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I would like to add to Accept the thoughts, means to accept their precense. It is not the same as agreeing.
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I think it might be a good idea if you got off the app for a bit hun. I believe you're looking for reassurance. Being scared in the locker room to change in front of people can be due to a variety of reasons. It might be evidence, might not. Either way you should sit with the anxiety :)
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It literally feels real alexis I don’t desire this why does this happen
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I remember going through this in middle school and changing in the Locker room was scary because I was afraid I would look at girls
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@Tan??? Mainly because a girl was gay and people always started to fear if she was looking at them I’m the locker room so when I started to fear being gay I worried I was doing that to girls
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@Tan??? Take a step back and breathe. You don't need to confess anything to me, I am a random person on the internet. I don't know anything about your personal life. Only you can determine who you want to be with girl! I recommend doing some gentle exposures. You don't need to keep living like this, I can see that you're in constant distress and you deserve to live a better quality life!
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I have as a guy in the locker room... Its because we are being hyperaware of how we are feeling in the locker room.
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The thing that makes it hard is that I see lgbtq people say they felt awkward in the locker room so it makes me scared this is me
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