MOTIVATION/QUESTION: There is sooo much reassurance seeking and really triggering stuff that gets posted here, and I was hoping to remind myself and us that we ALL know seeking reassurance does NOT help long term. Does anyone agree with me about this? We’re all in this together and we can get through it but I’m trying as hard as i can not to seek reassurance. I hardly go on the community board here anymore because it seems like everyone posting is asking for it in one way or another. “Am I this? Am I going to do that?” Today I’m going to resist the urge to seek reassurance. Who’s with me?

Lms526

Date posted: 4y

Yes, I completely agree. Its so frustrating and hard to deal with. Especially when the poster isn't willing to do the hard work to recover. It seems like a lot of people just want to whine and complain. I understand OCD sucks. But I find it really hard to have sympathy for someone who knows what they need to do, but just won't do it.

BritD

Date posted: 4y

There is a lot of reassurance seeking. I think just not giving the reassurance is all we can do

HJOx

Date posted: 4y

Yep! 100% agree! There is deffinately recovery for everyone, yet people post on here now for the sake of it. And it’s always the same people posting TRIGGERING posts asking for the reassurance. I’m sick of coming on here and seeing ‘I’m now gay’. Well if your going to post that then please leave the community, because OCD isn’t like that. It’s not fair anymore to the ones who are trying so hard and consistent to overcome this hell theme.

Lilyrosalynd

Date posted: 4y

but people sometimes feel like they have become their obsession, doesn't mean they are. they're just venting, and most of them put trigger warnings on there

HJOx

Date posted: 4y

@Lilyrosalynd Yeah, but people who consistently post are not helping themselves? In therapy, your therapist tells you to not seek reassurance. If you know you’ve become your obsession and it’s ticking in your mind 24/7, doesn’t that tell you it’s OCD?

Lilyrosalynd

Date posted: 4y

@HJOx all that i'm trying to say is that for some people it's hard, especially if they're not in therapy for many reasons.

Lms526

Date posted: 4y

@HJOx You would think so.

HJOx

Date posted: 4y

@Lilyrosalynd Which I totally understand. I started with this theme in July and I honestly didn’t want to be here anymore. But in order to get better, you have to push through and face your fears head on. I still HATE the thoughts and get them, but I know that it’s not ‘me’ and we have a brain dysfunction. I honestly considered brain surgery because I’m 27 and pregnant, in an amazing relationship! It’s horrific I 100% know hun.. but ERP and pushing through is legit the only way forward. Posting on here 24/7 only keeps the cycle going. It feels like someone has taken over your mind. I couldn’t even look in the mirror because I felt sick from the thoughts! But OCD is the ‘doubting disease’ and if you continue the doubt, it will always have the last word. How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? X

Lilyrosalynd

Date posted: 4y

@HJOx i know. i felt this way in the beginning but as it lingered i started getting more and more feelings like for example liking the thoughts and liking women and not liking men and it feeling like true questioning. i am 17 and can't really have access to therapy

Lilyrosalynd

Date posted: 4y

@Lilyrosalynd like I used to be in panic mode 24/7 but now it's so weird because most of the time i feel like i like my thoughts and barely any anxiety and it just doesn't feel like ocd anymore

HJOx

Date posted: 4y

@Lilyrosalynd How long have you had the theme? Have you had it before? X

Lilyrosalynd

Date posted: 4y

@HJOx no, but for about 7 months? can't quite pinpoint

#happiness

Date posted: 25w

Reassurance seeking

If I stop seeking reassurance will the thoughts become less?

Anony1314

Date posted: 24w

Not reassurance seeking in the moment

I'm struggling. Not going to seek the reassurance I feel I NEED.

Lovemycats02

Date posted: 22w

About reassurance?

I’ve heard it’s not good to seek reassurance or give it because it lowers your tolerance to uncertainty. But how do I avoid seeking reassurance when my thoughts and doubts are so bad, I genuinely just don’t know anymore if I’m a bad person or if it’s just OCD? I know I’m supposed to sit with the uncertainty, but how can I do that when the uncertainty has me unable to trust my own brain? Especially when the OCD is real event and POCD? How can I not seek reassurance when I feel so alone and so abnormal and just don’t wanna feel that way anymore? In turn, I see so many people on here struggling so bad and my heart breaks for them. How can I give advice to towers without giving them reassurance and hurting them in the long run?

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