I have an honest question here! I am seeing TONS of people posting about POCD with these age gaps of a couple years. They say they are 17y and found a 14y attractive. Isn’t that normal? I mean I would say POCD if you were obsessing over if you found a 10 year old or someone who is pre/pubescent attractive?

You could just be confusing it with finding a person cute, the same way you would find a baby or a dog to look cute and not in an intimate or flirtatious way.

@BigGip09 No, I only find grade 9s adorable since they're so small and clueless. I'm just saying if I found them hot there's gotta be something wrong. It's predatory I think. The main thing I ruminate about is whether finding someone 15 attractive at 18 is weird. Like if someone just turned 15 and I saw a picture of them and found them attractive is that weird ? I'm turning 18 in March. I usually just try to let it go though but it's annoying when it comes up. I'm mostly used to ocd at this point .

@Lucywilefire Well you've already established one compulsion. Rumination. You shouldn't be doing that whatsoever. If anything, you should ban it. If you looked at someone you thought was attractive before even knowing their age, would you question it? I think you would only question it after receiving the age of that person. It's not like you look at a person, deep down hoping that they are way younger rather than way older. It's just OCD thoughts confusing you at the end of the day. Also, you post too frequently when looking for reassurance. I think you should ban that compulsion as well. You finding someone who's an age or two below you attractive really isn't the end of the world. It's what you do after the fact that matters a lot more. If it comes up, just let it. You're putting so much focus on something that bothers you when you also have the option to let it sit there, give it little to no care, and move on. I know that's really really hard and easier said than done though. Take time in practicing that. Have you ever done ERP for this?

@BigGip09 Yeah I have. I should probably get back to doing it daily

@Lucywilefire Absolutely! Definitely get back to doing that because it will help you. It will be a lot better than figuring the same things out over and over, leading you nowhere. Soon, you don't even find yourself caring about things like that because you will have more confidence in who you are as a person. :)

I also think that a pedo is solely attracted to children under the age of 12 and no other attraction types. They think it's normal and don't have problems with it. I think OCD is the opposite, especially when people misuse the word.

@BigGip09 💯 agree