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It's not normal. I'm a grade 12 and finding a grade 9 hot is weird.
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You could just be confusing it with finding a person cute, the same way you would find a baby or a dog to look cute and not in an intimate or flirtatious way.
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@BigGip09 No, I only find grade 9s adorable since they're so small and clueless. I'm just saying if I found them hot there's gotta be something wrong. It's predatory I think. The main thing I ruminate about is whether finding someone 15 attractive at 18 is weird. Like if someone just turned 15 and I saw a picture of them and found them attractive is that weird ? I'm turning 18 in March. I usually just try to let it go though but it's annoying when it comes up. I'm mostly used to ocd at this point .
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@Lucywilefire Well you've already established one compulsion. Rumination. You shouldn't be doing that whatsoever. If anything, you should ban it. If you looked at someone you thought was attractive before even knowing their age, would you question it? I think you would only question it after receiving the age of that person. It's not like you look at a person, deep down hoping that they are way younger rather than way older. It's just OCD thoughts confusing you at the end of the day. Also, you post too frequently when looking for reassurance. I think you should ban that compulsion as well. You finding someone who's an age or two below you attractive really isn't the end of the world. It's what you do after the fact that matters a lot more. If it comes up, just let it. You're putting so much focus on something that bothers you when you also have the option to let it sit there, give it little to no care, and move on. I know that's really really hard and easier said than done though. Take time in practicing that. Have you ever done ERP for this?
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@BigGip09 Yeah I have. I should probably get back to doing it daily
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@Lucywilefire Absolutely! Definitely get back to doing that because it will help you. It will be a lot better than figuring the same things out over and over, leading you nowhere. Soon, you don't even find yourself caring about things like that because you will have more confidence in who you are as a person. :)
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I don’t find the at weird at all! More like normal attraction. Pedo is someone that finds prepubescent children sexually attractive
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I also think that a pedo is solely attracted to children under the age of 12 and no other attraction types. They think it's normal and don't have problems with it. I think OCD is the opposite, especially when people misuse the word.
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@BigGip09 💯 agree
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If the fear is about being a pedo, it’s pocd, doesn’t matter what age. You can have intrusive thoughts like “ Your a pedo for being attracted to that person bc they are a couple years younger” it’s technically not true, but ocd/ intrusive thoughts are irrational and it still causes people to worry and obsess about it. And of course a lot of people also get intrusive thoughts about actual kids
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How is this OCD? Who with Pocd thinks about a naked child ???? I was over here thinking if I’m actually attracted to kids because I find some of them good looking you know and my little cousin I have thoughts about her too and I was thinking about her naked but I wasn’t aroused or nothing so that’s where I’m confused It was intentional so does that make me a p*do?
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So one day a couple months ago I saw some posts on threads pop up on instagram and they said I’m 17 and horny and 18 and horny or I think I even remember see a 16 year old one. I’m 20 and I remembered that when those popped up I clicked on them and I don’t know if I did it out of true attraction or out of the urge to make my anxiety go away. I feel like often times if I see something that says any number under 18 even if it has nothing to do with age it could be talking about season 17 of a tv show my mind immediately goes what?? 17??? And then I click on it to make my anxiety go away. So when I remembered all of this I downloaded the threads app because I wanted to see if I could get reassurance and see if I could rekindle how I felt in these moments. When I opened the app all I saw was posts like that but everyone claimed to be 18. The only problem is none of the girls looked 18 they looked like 14-16 so I started to panic I and worry that because I clicked on the threads in the past it popped up more and I was a pedophile for that. All of the accounts all pretty much had only fans links so at that point I was like well they have to be 18 then but now I’m worried that maybe it’s a scammer and they are using underage pictures of girls and putting them on onlyfans. Which I know is out of my control but I just feel like a Pedo and like I did something wrong. Does anyone have any advice? Or have any similar situations/ similarities with this?
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TW So I haven’t been diagnosed with pocd, but many ppl said that I have it. I was in bed when I remembered this time when I first started experiencing what I hope is false attraction not actual pedophilia, I’m looking back on it rn n I’m worried it wasn’t false attraction, I remember feeling a sense of attraction when I saw that kid, I was about14 at the time and the kid was 11 or 12. I remember constantly searching to see if it was normal for a 14 year old to like a 12 or 11 year old, I was worried when I was doing that i think, I also kept walking pass her to look at her i think to check if i was attracted or not, but it makes me worried that I was attracted to her because im worried that i did it bc i was actually attracted. now looking back on it rn, I don’t feel panic, worry, shame, or guilt, I originally only felt panic and worry, never shame or guilt. Now I don’t feel any of it, not feeling panic and worry now makes me think that I am a p, I don’t want to be a p. I hope im not a p, Ive talked to a therapist and they’ve said that it’s pocd, but it wasn’t a official diagnosis, I’m worried it was a false diagnosis because I lied on one or two of the questions. I also constantly get senses of what I hope is false attraction when I see some kids, I keep trying to figure out if it is real or false attraction. Can someone give me some advice please
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