What’s the line between thinking someone is pretty and being attracted to them?? I’m going clubbing (for the first time) this thursday and i’m so scared im gonna find only the girls attractive over the guys. But i REALLY wanna fall in love with a guy and all that cute stuff, and i don’t want that with a girl it gives me anxiety….. I can’t tell the difference anymore When i’m “attracted” to a girl it feels like im burning and im scared and i get groinal responses and my head feels fuzzy and hot and heavy—i just feel weird and i get terrified. I’m paralyzed with fear. (My face also flushes) But with guys, i think they’re cute. And it’s just like neutral. Like my body doesn’t respond, and it’s natural. But then i’m scared it’s not attraction cause i don’t have that huge bodily response

Kdrizzy

233d ago

I feel like I wrote this post! I’ve had these same thoughts. I think it’s important to know that you can be attracted to anyone and anything, and you’re not weird if you do find another girl attractive or if you are attracted to her. That just means you like the person and being around them, like your friends probably. Try not to attach feelings to your thoughts either (I know easier said than done). For me, I always noticed a high feeling of “attraction” to women when I was in a very increased anxious state of mind. But when I wasn’t in that anxious mindset it’s like I don’t even think of it! Just remind yourself it’s all anxiety making you think and feel that way. I hope this helped and didn’t make things worse

hate_ocd.123

233d ago

Yeah its so funny! There’s so many forms of attraction: aesthetic, platonic, sexual, and romantic! Everytime i don’t have these thoughts, my mind naturally drifts to men. But atop that, i just finally left a really mentally abusive situationship with this guy this past year after enduring it for 3 years. And before that i’d been abused by like four other men, so idk my hocd got so bad after that. Ugh i hate all this with a passion