I need a little bit of hope, please read me... My relationship really was the best but when rocd hitted me, it destroyed everything. It's been almost 2 years and everything was a little bit better. But one day the obssesions came back but feeling more realistic than ever. Like this time it's really the truth. I have 0 libido, it gives me so much anxity to kiss him. We have a lot of problems because I am never turned out. I have so much nightmares about cheating and being turned up with other people. Im exhausted. I just wanna end this rocd phase but i am so scared that i cant and that it can ruin my relationship instead. I feel so numb. I can't feel anything and i am so worried and quedtion if i've finally lost everything that i felt for him. I am so scared. I really feel that i wanna be with him and that everything is going to be better but also i have so much fear , what if things cant get better? And everything is already ruined. I need hope, im scared if it isn't rocd anymore? 😔

Thank you very very much. Do you have more tips to recover my libido after rocd? And not feel so numb. I even feel sometimes that I get emotional with something about my relationship and when i realize it, is like my brain shouts down my emotions and tell me that i don't feel nothing for him or our relationship. So stressful

@nomel4se1 The human mind is really a strange thing. You have to walk a delicate balance of wanting to do something; and being detached from the outcome. I have a few tips. One is stop worrying about sex. Focus on just being intimate with your partner. Do fun things with them, watch fun movies with them, enjoy their company. Let the sex naturally come. And when it does, focus more on everything other than sex. Focus on their ears, their eyes, their mouth. Focus on massaging them. And let them do the same to you. Change your perspective on sex and love. Love about choosing to act a service of compassion and caring for another human. Focus on that. Not the results. And don’t push emotions down. Don’t push thoughts down. Let them come, and sit with them without identifying. Just let them be. Even if it’s uncomfortable. This is a workout for the ocd brain. The more you do it, the stronger you become

@Sasha You really don't know how you are helping me with those tips. I have another question if you don't mind. Is it okay to have sex when i feel really anxious and that i don't want to because all of my intrusive thoughts? I feel really overwhelmed and stressed when i kiss him because my head tells me that i don't like it and i don't wanna be with him. That makes me feel so bad. And all those dreams about cheating and being turned up with other people and thinking that i don't want to really be with him are part if the ocd too? I awake so ansious and thinking that the dream is what my subconscious really wants. This is awful.

@nomel4se1 I’m happy to help. It’s okay to have sex if you’re anxious and it’s okay to not have sex when your anxious either. Sex is meant for enjoyment and intimacy, not stress and pain. Go as slow as you need and communicate with your partner that you have anxiety and it’s hard to unwind. Remember, there’s so much more to a loving relationship than sex. So don’t feel like this is the only way to be fulfilled in a relationship. And yes your thoughts of other people is ocd. Not because of the thoughts (everyone has them, in a relationship or not) but because they give you anxiety and cause you to spiral. If I have thoughts like that with my gf, I just find them amusing now. At one point they worried me. Now they are just part of being human - having thoughts and an imagination.

@nomel4se1 Also, don’t look into dreams as literal. They don’t meaning that you want these things. They mean that all day you worry about these things, and your subconscious is dumping them into your brain and making a story from it. But it means nothing other than your ocd is stressing you out

@Sasha I really appreciate all of your comments. Thank you and I am really happy that you are doing better. ❤️

@nomel4se1 My pleasure. Soon you will be better too. ❤️

It's horrible. I love him so much and I really suffer because i wanna experience intimacy and connection with but this fking problem doesn't let me. I feel like something deep inside me wanna express all that love that I feel and it's dying for it but the rocd doesn't let that flow

Yes. Dreadfuly im in colombia and psychology and psychiatry are bullsh*t here. They didn't even know what rocd is

@nomel4se1 Ah I understand. That sucks. I'm struggling with affordability in the USA. Mental health needs to be talked about more.

@Anonymous I'm so sorry. Hopefuly you'll get better soon.