Stein
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AnonymousAnonymous
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Hi, I can relate to an extent. I tend to ruminate over people who have rejected me. I know it’s extremely strange. Are you on meds and are they helping?
SteinStein
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I’m not but am considering it. Are you?
AnonymousAnonymous
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Just started taking them, the ruminations were so strong that it was scary, felt like I was going crazy. I can’t even date with this problem, I just want to be in the present fully you know.
SteinStein
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Good luck to you. I really hope they help you out.
JLG323JLG323
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Your own thoughts and compulsions will always seem like the hardest kind to you because they are your own.
SteinStein
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Well said.
JLG323JLG323
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I'm going to bed. I would really like to talk more with you about this though. It feels nice to talk with someone who goes through the same thing. I hope we can talk again soon.
SteinStein
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Likewise. Talk soon.
Fruitpunch Fruitpunch
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Absolutely. Happens all the time!
AnonymousAnonymous
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How do you deal with the persistent thoughts?
SteinStein
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@Anonymous I don’t have a good answer as I’m still learning. Reminding myself that ruminations are temporary helps. Saying things like it’s okay not to know what’s gonna happen.
JLG323JLG323
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I try my damdest to allow the thoughts to pass with out giving them credit as being the truth. It is something I deal with every single day and it is the hardest thing I've ever gone through. It's been 3 years now and the same thoughts and feelings through out 2 different relationships. The only thing I have come to believe as fact is that if you try to force yourself I to feeling better or into certainty both your feelings and uncertainty will become worse.
SteinStein
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Yea mine have spanned all of my relationships for the last 10 years. I’ve ended relationships just to quiet my maddening mind. I’m in a 2 year relationship now and I’m trying not to repeat the patterns of the past. I agree that forcing yourself In the direction of certainty does not work, but tell my brain that!
SteinStein
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I feel like if my compulsion was physical that ERP may work better for me. I may be way off base here but is it easier to stop a physical compulsion than a mental? It’s so hard not not think.
JLG323JLG323
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Ironically, I have been with my wife for two years now as well and do not want to repeat the same either. God I can only imagine what it would be like to go through this for 10 years. I know how hard it is man. Do you deal with constant thoughts that your are lying to yourself?
SteinStein
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It’s sad but I’ve just gotten used to it I guess. I’m hoping to pop the question but it feels wrong to do with my kind flooded with doubts, even if they are just OCD. My constant thoughts are just all variations of doubts that my girlfriend is not right for me. We get along amazingly though and have great trust, it’s a solid relationship.
JLG323JLG323
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@Brian Months before we got married, I agonized over it the entire time. Yet, we are now married, I still have ROCD and she still supports me. And to be honest, even though I was anxious as all hell during the ceremony, I actually ended up having a pretty good time. Do you talk with her about your thoughts and feelings?
SteinStein
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@JLG323 I feel encouraged by your story, thanks for sharing. Just a little bit. I don’t wanna scare her by sharing all of these unreasonable doubts with her. She won’t understand.
JLG323JLG323
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@Brian If she won't try to understand what you go through, would it really be worth it? You may be surprised if you have her a chance.
SteinStein
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@JLG323 I’ve shared with her that I have OCD and that I have doubts and ruminations. I just feel like if I shared ALL of my OCD doubts with her it may freak her out.
JLG323JLG323
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@Brian It could. I've had the exact same thoughts. My current ruminations are a regular topic between my wife and I. It feels a lot better to get them out then it does to keep them in.
JLG323JLG323
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Perhaps, but try telling that to the person who washes their hands 7 times before leaving a bathroom.
SteinStein
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Yes I know and I don’t mean to diminish those struggles at all! This sucks all around.
SteinStein
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Im just doubting this therapy. It’s expensive and it just seems like it’s telling me to live in the moment and not to engage with ruminations. I just don’t see how to do that successfully.
AnonymousAnonymous
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Sure thing, goodnight
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