Hey, is anyone else here struggling with loss of attraction? Im not looking for reassurance but it would be great to speak to someone else who is dealing with this too. It feels like proof i dont have ocd and i need to accept that..i dont know what to do anymore at this point

Hey, im sorry youve gone through thus too. Let me know if you wanna talk about it or anything, it helps me to know im not alone and that it is just ocd :)

@Winter Thanks, yeah I would like to talk about it. I definitely understand!

@Mak46 Idk if its just me but i just end up so stuck in my thoughts that i sort of feel numb and feels like im not attracted to guys anymore.. have you had this too or what part of the loss of attraction are you struggling with most? :)

@Winter Yeah I have had this exact thing happen to me. Then I don't feel much at all when I look at a guy that I know I would think is hot before this whole thing happened. Even when it comes to male celebrities that I have always had a crush on.

@Mak46 Yeah it really sucks. It makes it feel so real and scary :(

@Winter Yeah it does. And it really makes me feel like all my crushes were fake or something. Or that I'm forcing it when it's never felt like that

@Mak46 Yeah me too, youre not alone ❤️

@Winter Thanks! Yeah and plus these past couple two days I haven't felt as much anxiety about thoughts like this but it is making me more worried. But I don't know if my body is just so exhausted from worrying that it physically won't let me be as anxious right now. Because I am so worried that how I feel is just me now.

@Mak46 Ive had the exact same before, its really weird. In a way it felt reassuring to have the anxiety about the thoughts but then at the same time its horrible. Im struggling with figuring out if i like this guy atm and i cant get the thoughts out of my head that im faking it and leading him on and i secretly wanna be with girls or even that im asexual or something.. i really like him and get butterflies when he talks to me but then whenever we are actually together i spend the whole time thinking and worrying and just feel numb which sucks and it feels like proof im not attracted to guys :( Sorry for the long post haha, hope youre doing okay :)

@Mak46 Also i know what you mean about feeling like this is just who we are now. Im so scared i will never experience things because im so stuck in this cycle. We will though, its just hard to see at the moment. Plenty of others have recovered form ocd so we can too :)

@Winter Hope you are doing okay besides this. I am actually going through something similar. I have gone out on a couple of dates with this guy and I am so worried that I am faking it and I'm not actually attracted to him. Though whenever it comes to dating or doing anything with a guy it brings me a lot of anxiety especially since I never never had a boyfriend before. So, it has made me worry even more. Like I am supposed to meet him today but I am so anxious about the whole thing.

@Mak46 Im exactly the same, ive not had boyfriend before either so im nervous about intimacy.. especially cos the guy im seeing kinda wants to take things faster than im comfortable with because i just feel like i need to take things really slow with these thoughts all the time. I hope everything went okay for you, I completely get where youre coming from though, it can be really scary. Its good to keep doing things you would usually do without the thoughts too though. Its hard though trying to date and have this feeling in the back of your mind all the time, it makes me feel guilty too, idk if youve had that too. I really hope things work out for you though :)

@Winter Thanks! I hope it works out for you too. Yeah I had such a strong urge to cancel last minute because of how anxious I felt but I remembered that avoiding things doesn't make anxiety better in the long run. Yeah I think it is important he respects the pace that you are comfortable with. Especially since all of this is already out of our comfort zones. It is hard though because I do feel guilty. I worry I don't actually like him because of the ocd. That this is how I find out that I don't want to date guys. I also think in general I am still having loss of attraction anyways. Also when around him I don't necessarily feel the butterflies thing which makes me worried. I kind of overall just feel more comfortable around him and calm I guess.

@Mak46 Well done for still going, thats really important! The loss of attraction is really hard to deal with. I feel the thoughts before were all just kept in my head whereas now its genuinly impacting my relationships with people. Like i have a weird mind blank where cant enjoy being with him because im just overthinking and feel numb which makes me feel so guilty.. Being comfortable and calm around him is so much more important than butterflies, hopefully it will lessen your intrusive thoughts around him a bit so you can enjoy spending time together more :) i think its hard because we over analyse everything so we no longer just live in the moment and for me it gets to the point where im predicting what i “should” be feeling which obviously leads to me not feeling anything at all. Its such a viscous cycle.

@Winter Oh yeah I totally get the overthinking and thinking about how I should feel too. I overthink literally everything especially anything relationship related. I think especially because my self esteem has never been great. But yeah we are thinking about this so ocd so much that I think it's hard to have energy for much else. Yeah hopefully it will lessen my intrusive thoughts. Also if you ever want to talk about all this outside of this app I have snapchat, instagram, Twitter, etc.

@Mak46 Yeah same, low self esteem makes it even harder. Sure! my insta is monique.2932 :)

Im so sorry youve been struggling with this too, it really sucks.. i worry a lot that it wont ever come back but the I know i the more i focus on how i “should” feel, the worse it will get.. its such a viscous cycle. Hope youre okay ❤️