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So something I’m trying is just letting my thoughts and feelings be thoughts and feelings. If you were in a straight relationship (I am currently) and found yourself attracted to another women you wouldn’t freak out as much. Because you know that it’s normal to find other people attractive. Well it’s perfectly normal to find the opposite sex attractive. The difference is what you do with that information. It will make you feel uncomfortable at first. God knows it made me feel awful especially this morning I felt so depressed from my thoughts I almost cried. And then as the day sets in I realise that yes I felt like this at that time, or I thought this at this time. Doesn’t mean I need to do anything about it. And it’s strange but it will actually allow you to carry on in your current relationships. It may feel a bit alien at first, but this is OCD for you. Hack the system, play the OCD at its own game.
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I get intrusive thoughts of wanting it all the time when I dont... your not alone... I hope you can respond to my situation... 😞😞
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I don't know how I can get serious with a woman again or date them with these thoughts and feeling going on
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If you can feel a certain way at one point in your life, there’s nothing stopping you from feeling that way again
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What do you think mate ?.....
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@Ihateocd83 About what?
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@BradOCD Comment below ?....
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@Ihateocd83 So I just read something really interesting that is. Your OCD’s aim is to try and prepare you for what you fear. And one was it tries to do that is give you thoughts, and feelings when you really don’t want them. Normally when you’re enjoying yourself so it feels like you’ve enjoyed the thoughts. That way you get so confused that you might believe the OCD and run away from what you fear. So I’ve just decided I’m going to hold it out, let the thoughts come and go but not shout at them just acknowledge their existence.
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@BradOCD I keep thinking what if it isn't ocd and I have to live like this forever I would rather be dead
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I really hope I can mate. My mind is still convinced I'm more into men. Fml
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@Ihateocd83 Mine too. It’s got even worse since I wrote me last message to you. It’s like I wake up and panic about it then I don’t panic. I just feel like I’m in the closet right now and it would be so easy to come out. But I don’t want these feelings anymore but I can’t see them going away anytime soon
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But why now this all started at 22 I'm 38 and now it's the feelings of wanting to be with a man. I was in a relationship but not a healthy one. I had no sex life etc. Also I get feelings and thoughts about penises and I feel like I'm the only one here 😔
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Mate you’re not the only one here I promise! I had had a really unhealthy relationship before my current one. The thing is at no point did I think it was because ‘I might be gay.’ Interestingly enough that only started when I got into my really good relationship. But I had had thoughts that made me uncomfortable in the past but I never attached meaning to them. The difference this time is… I attached meaning to them.
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this is really common! ocd can latch onto anything, including but not limited to our sexual orientation, relationships, and anything else we value/can't know 100%. we have lots of information on this in our live q and a webinars and also we have a free sos function/tool that may be helpful for you.
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But why does it feel so real? Why do these intrusive thoughts, feelings, and groinals remain so common? And why does it make us feel like we want it when we don’t...?
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So i started to feel like a lesbian again and that i have to be one. I dont want to be one. I just dont. But being straight feel like a lie now. I question my whole life, my feelings and everything. The biggest indicator of this must be that i will be slowly 21 year old and ive never dated anyone and i dont really find anyone attractive and i dont even know if i truly was attracted to someone and im scared of relationships i might have trauma or have anxious avoidant attachment. Help me. I do feel lost. Really lost. I dont know who am I anymore. I feel like that i must have been gay my whole life now. I feel like an alien. I sometimes feel like 2 people are living inside of me.😞😞😞
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I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments
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I’ve always been straight my whole life and I’ve never considered being different nor have i ever had attraction to women but lately I’ve been going through a lot of different thoughts that definitely feel unlike me. When I was a kid and I don’t remember how old I was but im sure like 7 or 8 and my cousin that was I very close to had me do inappropriate things to her that I didn’t really know anything about at that time. After that happened to me I knew it was wrong and I felt so bad and disgusting and scared but at the time I didn’t really know anything and I remember when my mom would drop me over my grandmas house while she would work, I’d take my grandma’s phone and I looked up kissing videos and I saw the kissing scene from Jennifer’s body and looking back on it I just feel so much shame and confusion bc it certainly feels embarrassing. My cousin always liked girls but I never did. I loved sitting and watching Disney movies preferably princess and the frog and wanting to be a princess getting married to a prince just like in all the movies. I knew who I was from a very young age and that never changed about me. When I learned what porn was at an older age, I started becoming hyper sexual so I watched tutorials videos of women to learn how to pleasure myself. When I was a kid and to now I’ve never looked at women in that way. I’ve had best friends and sleepovers it’s never been anything sexual, romantic, or intimate. Just simply innocent friendships and hangouts. When I got to high school that’s when i started remembering what happened to me and i remember how the girls would talk about their first kisses and i remembered my sa and how I felt so scared to say anything to anyone bc I didn’t want people to think badly of me simply bc my first kiss was like that so I would simply just not say anything. Lately I’ve been having obsessive thoughts out of nowhere wondering if my sexuality has changed or if im bi or is it just my thoughts? I’ve always had ocd and even in school, the kids would pick at me because I always eat my food in order and by the lightest color. But lately it’s gotten worse. It’s like I’ve never had thoughts like this nor have I ever been like this. Not even when I was a child. And humans question themselves of course but this feels like something different. I’ve gotten distant from my best friend who’s also a girl and I’ve just cut off social media and female friend relationships at all because for some reason my brain tells me that it’s “gay” to even hug your friends or hold their hands anymore like you used to do when you were kids. I even got to a point where I would watch women porn and try to masturbate just to see if I was attracted to it or not like that’s how bad the thoughts got. It felt like an evil voice was in my head trying to convince me and sweet talk me to do and enjoy those disgusting things even when my body didn’t want to. I eventually had confided in my bf about it because he was also a victim of sa and so he helped me through it and I stopped doing it but then and my bf (now ex) broke up a couple days ago and now ive been dealing with this alone which feels like the hardest part for me. So I’ve texted my bff a lot to catch up because I’ve been distant dealing with this and I was just checking my phone awaiting for her responses to my texts because she tends to type slow and usually I never think anything of it because I used to check my phone all the time when I would await my boyfriends reply or simply just a text from him and so now im having thoughts like “why am I awaiting her texts” “do I like my friend?” Its just so many obsessive thoughts and so much overthinking that I am getting tired of because It’s been going on for months so I know this is a lot but please if anyone can please help me I beg, it would be such a great help appreciated bc this has became a really big impact on my life and not in a good way lol. Thank you !!
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