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So something I’m trying is just letting my thoughts and feelings be thoughts and feelings. If you were in a straight relationship (I am currently) and found yourself attracted to another women you wouldn’t freak out as much. Because you know that it’s normal to find other people attractive. Well it’s perfectly normal to find the opposite sex attractive. The difference is what you do with that information. It will make you feel uncomfortable at first. God knows it made me feel awful especially this morning I felt so depressed from my thoughts I almost cried. And then as the day sets in I realise that yes I felt like this at that time, or I thought this at this time. Doesn’t mean I need to do anything about it. And it’s strange but it will actually allow you to carry on in your current relationships. It may feel a bit alien at first, but this is OCD for you. Hack the system, play the OCD at its own game.
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I get intrusive thoughts of wanting it all the time when I dont... your not alone... I hope you can respond to my situation... 😞😞
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I don't know how I can get serious with a woman again or date them with these thoughts and feeling going on
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If you can feel a certain way at one point in your life, there’s nothing stopping you from feeling that way again
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What do you think mate ?.....
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@Ihateocd83 About what?
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@BradOCD Comment below ?....
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@Ihateocd83 So I just read something really interesting that is. Your OCD’s aim is to try and prepare you for what you fear. And one was it tries to do that is give you thoughts, and feelings when you really don’t want them. Normally when you’re enjoying yourself so it feels like you’ve enjoyed the thoughts. That way you get so confused that you might believe the OCD and run away from what you fear. So I’ve just decided I’m going to hold it out, let the thoughts come and go but not shout at them just acknowledge their existence.
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@BradOCD I keep thinking what if it isn't ocd and I have to live like this forever I would rather be dead
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I really hope I can mate. My mind is still convinced I'm more into men. Fml
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@Ihateocd83 Mine too. It’s got even worse since I wrote me last message to you. It’s like I wake up and panic about it then I don’t panic. I just feel like I’m in the closet right now and it would be so easy to come out. But I don’t want these feelings anymore but I can’t see them going away anytime soon
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But why now this all started at 22 I'm 38 and now it's the feelings of wanting to be with a man. I was in a relationship but not a healthy one. I had no sex life etc. Also I get feelings and thoughts about penises and I feel like I'm the only one here 😔
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Mate you’re not the only one here I promise! I had had a really unhealthy relationship before my current one. The thing is at no point did I think it was because ‘I might be gay.’ Interestingly enough that only started when I got into my really good relationship. But I had had thoughts that made me uncomfortable in the past but I never attached meaning to them. The difference this time is… I attached meaning to them.
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this is really common! ocd can latch onto anything, including but not limited to our sexual orientation, relationships, and anything else we value/can't know 100%. we have lots of information on this in our live q and a webinars and also we have a free sos function/tool that may be helpful for you.
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But why does it feel so real? Why do these intrusive thoughts, feelings, and groinals remain so common? And why does it make us feel like we want it when we don’t...?
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I feel so sad, alone, scared and hopeless. Until two months ago there was not even the remote possibility of being anything other than heterosexual and now the idea that I could find out that I was lesbian or bisexual terrifies me to death. Everything was born from the fact that I didn't feel sexual desire towards my ex-boyfriend and I started to be afraid that it was because I was a lesbian... how can I be a lesbian or bisexual if everything was born from this? I would like to run away from myself and my head. I would really like to go back and go back to my life before. I can't take it anymore. I just want to live my life like before
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Hi, I'm 17,about to be 18. I've been struggling with these thoughts for the past 8 months. I was wondering if someone experienced ever the same because I feel im "different". BACKGROUND: (I'm not diagnosed with Ocd but seeing a local counselor) About 9 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy S (who blackmailed, manipulated and molested me). Since then when I realized that what i did was very WRONG and so I started ruminating picking apart every single interaction and telling my boyfriend, i tried to remember every single detail because otherwise I felt like i was being a fraud and hiding things to save myself, i had many crisis about it because I had also what i think was false memory ocd. My boyfriend forgave me idk how tbh I still wonder. CURRENT STRUGGLE: Months ago I was sure I didn't wanna S in any way and i was sure even when everything happened. For the past 2 months tho I've been having thoughts like " Do I love S?" "I love S" "S is hot" "Would S find me hot?" "What if I want S?" " What if I don't love my boyfriend enough?" "What if I secretly want S?" "What if I see my boyfriend as a friend only?Do I?" And I tried testing my reaction to intimate scenarios with S, I'm scared I like it i dont really wanna love S or have any secret attraction, I wish I didn't have any of this and I want to be sure of my feelings for my boyfriend because I know I wanna be with him and I see a future with him like he brings me comfort. But a part of me keeps trying to convince me otherwise. Sometimes I think I'd rather die than have these thoughts. Im so scared of not being able to control my feelings, im scared I can't resist S and its giving me anxiety and making me cry. Sometimes when i think of those sexual scenarios with S or I get those thoughts my mind tells me to smile because i like it because I find it funny. It makes me doubt myself all over again. Like I'm always like I need to test if I'd feel aroused to intimate scenarios with S, lately im trying to fight this urge to test and test but my mind is like "just do it this once so you can be sure. I can never watch anything romantic or sexual or whatever because my mind would be like "you and S" or sometimes I'm just enjoying time with my bf and im like " yes we can just have a sneaky cheating thing thats ok" and it makes me want to figure it out to find an answer a solution because idk it just does like I need to find the meaning of it if it means the truth and all. Im worried im just an awful person and these thoughts just ruin my quality of life . Today i had a crisis where i ended up doinf swlf harm, I'm so scared of finding someone that's not my boyfriend desirable or sexual appealing or whatever it is, I also have bodily reactions when I try to imagine and test my reaction to scenarios. Now i keep groing everytime and I dont know why but i have this sensation and I dont want to havebit especially when its something S related. Does someone experience the same thoughts? Am I alone in this? Is this ROCD? What should i do?
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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