- Date posted
- 525d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
I get intrusive thoughts of wanting it all the time when I dont... your not alone... I hope you can respond to my situation... 😞😞
I don't know how I can get serious with a woman again or date them with these thoughts and feeling going on
So something I’m trying is just letting my thoughts and feelings be thoughts and feelings. If you were in a straight relationship (I am currently) and found yourself attracted to another women you wouldn’t freak out as much. Because you know that it’s normal to find other people attractive. Well it’s perfectly normal to find the opposite sex attractive. The difference is what you do with that information. It will make you feel uncomfortable at first. God knows it made me feel awful especially this morning I felt so depressed from my thoughts I almost cried. And then as the day sets in I realise that yes I felt like this at that time, or I thought this at this time. Doesn’t mean I need to do anything about it. And it’s strange but it will actually allow you to carry on in your current relationships. It may feel a bit alien at first, but this is OCD for you. Hack the system, play the OCD at its own game.
If you can feel a certain way at one point in your life, there’s nothing stopping you from feeling that way again
What do you think mate ?.....
@Ihateocd83 About what?
@BradOCD Comment below ?....
@Ihateocd83 So I just read something really interesting that is. Your OCD’s aim is to try and prepare you for what you fear. And one was it tries to do that is give you thoughts, and feelings when you really don’t want them. Normally when you’re enjoying yourself so it feels like you’ve enjoyed the thoughts. That way you get so confused that you might believe the OCD and run away from what you fear. So I’ve just decided I’m going to hold it out, let the thoughts come and go but not shout at them just acknowledge their existence.
@BradOCD I keep thinking what if it isn't ocd and I have to live like this forever I would rather be dead
I really hope I can mate. My mind is still convinced I'm more into men. Fml
@Ihateocd83 Mine too. It’s got even worse since I wrote me last message to you. It’s like I wake up and panic about it then I don’t panic. I just feel like I’m in the closet right now and it would be so easy to come out. But I don’t want these feelings anymore but I can’t see them going away anytime soon
But why now this all started at 22 I'm 38 and now it's the feelings of wanting to be with a man. I was in a relationship but not a healthy one. I had no sex life etc. Also I get feelings and thoughts about penises and I feel like I'm the only one here 😔
Mate you’re not the only one here I promise! I had had a really unhealthy relationship before my current one. The thing is at no point did I think it was because ‘I might be gay.’ Interestingly enough that only started when I got into my really good relationship. But I had had thoughts that made me uncomfortable in the past but I never attached meaning to them. The difference this time is… I attached meaning to them.
this is really common! ocd can latch onto anything, including but not limited to our sexual orientation, relationships, and anything else we value/can't know 100%. we have lots of information on this in our live q and a webinars and also we have a free sos function/tool that may be helpful for you.
But why does it feel so real? Why do these intrusive thoughts, feelings, and groinals remain so common? And why does it make us feel like we want it when we don’t...?