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So something I’m trying is just letting my thoughts and feelings be thoughts and feelings. If you were in a straight relationship (I am currently) and found yourself attracted to another women you wouldn’t freak out as much. Because you know that it’s normal to find other people attractive. Well it’s perfectly normal to find the opposite sex attractive. The difference is what you do with that information. It will make you feel uncomfortable at first. God knows it made me feel awful especially this morning I felt so depressed from my thoughts I almost cried. And then as the day sets in I realise that yes I felt like this at that time, or I thought this at this time. Doesn’t mean I need to do anything about it. And it’s strange but it will actually allow you to carry on in your current relationships. It may feel a bit alien at first, but this is OCD for you. Hack the system, play the OCD at its own game.
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I get intrusive thoughts of wanting it all the time when I dont... your not alone... I hope you can respond to my situation... 😞😞
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I don't know how I can get serious with a woman again or date them with these thoughts and feeling going on
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If you can feel a certain way at one point in your life, there’s nothing stopping you from feeling that way again
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What do you think mate ?.....
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@Ihateocd83 About what?
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@BradOCD Comment below ?....
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@Ihateocd83 So I just read something really interesting that is. Your OCD’s aim is to try and prepare you for what you fear. And one was it tries to do that is give you thoughts, and feelings when you really don’t want them. Normally when you’re enjoying yourself so it feels like you’ve enjoyed the thoughts. That way you get so confused that you might believe the OCD and run away from what you fear. So I’ve just decided I’m going to hold it out, let the thoughts come and go but not shout at them just acknowledge their existence.
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@BradOCD I keep thinking what if it isn't ocd and I have to live like this forever I would rather be dead
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I really hope I can mate. My mind is still convinced I'm more into men. Fml
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@Ihateocd83 Mine too. It’s got even worse since I wrote me last message to you. It’s like I wake up and panic about it then I don’t panic. I just feel like I’m in the closet right now and it would be so easy to come out. But I don’t want these feelings anymore but I can’t see them going away anytime soon
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But why now this all started at 22 I'm 38 and now it's the feelings of wanting to be with a man. I was in a relationship but not a healthy one. I had no sex life etc. Also I get feelings and thoughts about penises and I feel like I'm the only one here 😔
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Mate you’re not the only one here I promise! I had had a really unhealthy relationship before my current one. The thing is at no point did I think it was because ‘I might be gay.’ Interestingly enough that only started when I got into my really good relationship. But I had had thoughts that made me uncomfortable in the past but I never attached meaning to them. The difference this time is… I attached meaning to them.
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this is really common! ocd can latch onto anything, including but not limited to our sexual orientation, relationships, and anything else we value/can't know 100%. we have lots of information on this in our live q and a webinars and also we have a free sos function/tool that may be helpful for you.
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But why does it feel so real? Why do these intrusive thoughts, feelings, and groinals remain so common? And why does it make us feel like we want it when we don’t...?
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I’m struggling so bad. I actually started getting better but now my thoughts are back. I feel like I can’t do anything, watch a movie “oh you’re turned on by that”, go out shopping “oh you’re trying to look pretty for her”. Like what???? My brain just won’t stop!!!!!! It’s making me so depressed, I just feel like I’m about to lose it. I’m happily married, and absolutely in love with my husband. But my brain keeps saying “you’re gay! You’re bi” whatever. I’m so tired guys, I feel so alone, and this has been going on for months…
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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As a lesbian with SO-OCD, I feel so helpless. It's truly exhausting because no one I know understands what I'm going through. The first response is always, "You're just confused" or "You don't have to know yet." But that's not the issue, I do know. I just never see any lesbians with SO-OCD so I feel so invalidated. These thoughts flood my brain constantly, forcing me to analyze my reactions to every man I see. I feel trapped in an endless cycle of "testing" myself, trying to prove that I don't like them. But my brain fights back, telling me I do want to love a man, making it feel real even though don't want it. It's terrifying. At this point, it's hard to even hold onto my identity as a lesbian because I'm so overwhelmed. I don't know if this is what real attraction is supposed to feel like, and that fear eats away at me. The truth is, when I think about being with a man, all I feel is disgust and fear-but my brain twists that into doubt. I hate it. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'm going to have to accept something I don't want because I don't know if this will ever go away. I miss who I was before all this.
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