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Username: Brave through

Date posted: 700d ago

Sexual Orientation OCD

PLEASE 🙏🏻🙏🏻PLEASE READ AND ANSWER IF POSSIBLE!!! i have known myself to be a straight female who has liked guys and now has thoughts about being bi because of hocd but i still do see guys notice them and because od these thoughts or not notice girls too which makes me think i am not in denial and and actually just avoiding it i got a dream about a guy and i thought about getting it what is this now i am thinking of this is all hocd why am i getting guy dreams why am I overthinking being STRAIGHT also when thats all i am or what is this?!?!!?!! I should be happy with this but i get like thinking oh guy dream good but why like what is wrong with me this has never happened until this week and its getting worst and the strongest my hocd has tried to convince me of denial . I don’t know how to explain thats why i want a professional to just guide me. I am like okay both these thoughts are there why am i having opposite sex attraction when hocd symptoms say diminished opposite sex attraction and also thibking about same sex at the same time this clearly indicates i am in denial and why would i be okay with that what is this plssss help me out of this plss i dont understand this it’s actually so so confusing help!!!!! Hocd has made me question my actual attraction to guys whyyyyyyyy

User type: Staff

Username: Tia Wilson

Date posted: 696d ago

It sounds like you might be stuck in a bit of a ruminative spiral. OCD tells us that we need to figure things out right this second and can make things feel really urgent, heavy, and overwhelming. Unfortunately, when we give into that urge, we are strengthening OCD’s cycle. I know it can feel really hard to lean into the uncertainty, but when you find yourself feeling that anxious need to analyze - try validating the emotions instead. Rather than trying to figure it out, practice sitting with the anxiety and distress you might be experiencing. Recognize that these feelings can go away on their own, without you needing to figure it out. You can practice this after you wake up from a dream or anytime you feel the need to analyze! I hope this helps!