Hi guys, I’ve only just installed this app, so no idea how to use it really! But I thought I’d share. For context I believe I have cheating OCD. I’m currently ruminating about whether or not to go out tomorrow, with my boyfriend and his family, for lunch, because I find his dad handsome, and even though I was planning on going before I started to stress, I suddenly had the thought “am I just going because of his dad?” Which is something I’d never do but the OCD makes me doubt myself. I also have a phobia I would say that stems from my cheating OCD of being in close proximity to people, because even like a brush from someone will make me think I’ve cheated and I did it on purpose. So I’m terrified that, if his dad ends up close to me, I’ll tell myself I leaned into him or whatever and feel awful about it for months. I always tell my boyfriend when I think I’ve cheated and according to him I never have, but I still have doubts over even that. As I’m writing this hes at a nightclub that I would’ve gone to with him if I wasn’t so afraid. I don’t know what to do. Should I go?

Yes. The tendency to avoid is exactly what keeps the OCD fueled. Avoidance is the worst thing you can do, as much as it feels so desirable and attractive as an option. When you're there and the thoughts come, sit with them and try your best to accept them. As much as you shouldn't avoid going, you need to learn how to address the thoughts when they arise - using avoidance techniques in the moment is also detrimental and keeps the anxiety going. Acceptance is key.

I have cheating OCD from online stuff I fear I’ve sent nudes, flirted, and the list goes on really . I’ve been in wacky chat virtual game rooms were they will be labeled “sugar daddys” or “singles” stuff like that . And it’s like a little avatar you use to play online . So I didn’t think anything of the label of the virtual room . But now obsess over it and think that I was looking to date someone . Or said something bad to someone or sent them something bad . Etc etc and I will have thoughts like “I’m hotter why is he talking to her” and I will think that I wanna be with someone else besides my boyfriend . And obsess over it . I’ve deleted every app that could lead me into a virtual room like that . And deleted most pictures of myself on social media unless it’s with my boyfriend . In reality I think I was just bored and I don’t leave the house due to anxiety so It was my way of entertainment I guesss. But ANYWAYS you’re not alone I struggle with this deeply and I feel like an awful human being . Attraction is normal in my opinion . I think you should go and expose yourself to thag situation and learn to be comfortable near his dad . It’s really hard but if you ever need a buddy (I am female btw) you can add me on social media and we can chat about things . 🧡