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I’m so sorry. I think as long as you’re careful about how often and how much you drink, as well as don’t drive, drinking is totally safe. It only becomes a problem when you use it as an emotional crutch, which it doesn’t sound like at all. They likely joke about it because, as you said, you only drink with friends, so that’s what they see. It isn’t right of them to call you that though, ESPECIALLY when you’ve told them to stop. If I were you, I’d let them know that you don’t feel comfortable hanging out with them if they’re gonna make fun of you
Thank you I will tell them smt along those lines if they say it again. Some know the reason why and still joke. They probably don’t realize at the time but it’s just one of those off limit things for me :/
When you say stressed, you mean it increases your anxiety response... when they call you an alcoholic, with it being a fear...?
Yes exactly :/
@unknown I think, with you feeling fear... you will never become that... which you fear. I find that’s the thing with OCD, it kind of keeps you safe... it prevents us from doing... what we fear the most. It keeps us out of harms way.
@7EMPES7 It does in such a painful way maybe it does
@unknown Does that sound correct to you, I’m not always sure myself?
@7EMPES7 Yes it does thank u
@7EMPES7 Thats what OCD want you to think its doing. But what it is actually doing is making you afraid to do anything. Its causing the alarm to go off, but there's no fire. So its really not keeping you out of harm's way at all. Intrusive thoughts and fears have no basis in reality. Some anxiety is good and keeps us safe. But OCD blows the idea of being in danger WAY out of proportion. It tells you that you are in danger, but you actually aren't.
Sounds like some shitty friends who don’t respect your boundaries.
Ya :/ they can be like tgat
I can relate to this. I used to have the same fear. I drank too much ONE TIME at 18. I didn't know I had OCD at the time. But I convinced myself that if I drank alcohol I would become a raging alcoholic. Even after I was of legal drinking age. I didn't drink any alcohol until I was in my late 30s. I was at a work bowling party with friends and had one alcoholic drink. I felt guilty about that one drink for about 3 months. One of the ladies I was with that night said "It was one drink. Its not like you got drunk. But even if you did, it wouldn't be the end of the world," I still don't drink that often and never more than 2. I drink 2 or 3 times a year, if that. I recently realized that my OCD has switched. Now its telling me that if I drink alcohol alone I will become an alcoholic. I live alone and don't even keep any alcohol in my apartment. My counselor wants me to do an exposure involving having an alcoholic drink by myself. It makes me anxious just thinking about doing that.
I’m sorry you have to go through that but selfishly I’m thankful I’m not alone in this situation! I have the exact same fear actually. My friend accused me of that recently “always drinking alone” I know she said it out of defense at the time but it broke my heart. I was stressed about it for a while, as I feared that’s how other people portray me. So I can totally understand the fear behind that! Thank u for responding <3
I know this is probably just my ocd but i always worry that because I like drinking I am or will turn into an alcoholic. Another thing is I prefer drinking at home because I don't want to worry about finding a way home when drunk, and I don't mind drinking alone either. I literally always worry about this and now I feel guilty when I drink at all
Sooo, finally legal in my country and decided to experiment with alcohol. After a while I realised I liked the tastes of certain ones and also realised it was expensive and it takes me a while to even get remotely tipsy. Also. I do follow a religion that prohibits alcohol. So I made the decision to stop. But I keep having a slight itch to drink. It’s not even for the alcohol part, because as we’ve established i don’t get drunk easily. I just like the taste of wine. So today I went to the store and brought a sparkling fruit juice. Thinking it’d taste similar . And it has no alcohol in it. I even checked the label and even googled it several times . My younger brother asked for a a bit and I said sure. Now I’m spiralling, because the taste is so similar to wine. And I realised the sparkling drink was made specifically to be an alcohol alternative. what if the company gets exposed for actually being alcoholic. What if I introduced my brother to a life style of alcoholism. What if me buying this is a sign I’ll try alcohol again. What if I become addicted to escape low moments. What if I can’t stop. I even follow accounts now about recovering from alcohol to put me off ever trying it again.
I often want to be able to drink alcohol like a normal 21 year old with friends, but then I notice I question if I handled my intrusive thoughts normally while under the influence. I then convince myself that the alcohol made me less aware and more likely to engage with the thought. Even though I think I’m fighting against the thought even more than if i was sober. It’s annoying because I want to be able to relax when buzzed but when the ocd thoughts start, then it’s harder to ignore them than when sober. I wish I could just trust in myself and know that even if i am tipsy, that i am stronger than intrusive thoughts and can handle them as I usually do.
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