Cheating ocd. Does anyone else just fear that finding other people attractive is mentally cheating on your partner? Every time I notice someone is attractive or have any intrusive sexual thoughts or feelings about someone other than her I feel so incredibly guilty and worried that I am hurting her. She suffers from body image issues and we had a conversation about this once (it went really really poorly because I had no clue what ocd was at the time). This conversation is actually what started the ocd spiral that led me to therapy though I had been dealing with intrusive thoughts for years before. Does anyone relate to this experience and have any advice? (I’m working with a NOCD therapist rn)

Relationship OCD

Pepperonimuf...

Date posted: 4y

Mine is more about actually cheating on my partner online in particular . I’ve downloaded apps to make friends and talked to many people and fear I’ve done something wrong . But what you’re going through is normal , and the fact that you’re scared over thoughts means you love and care about this person so much . And it is not cheating what you should label it is OCD instead of cheating . If this was cheating then everyone in the world world probably would be cheating .

Pepperonimuf...

Date posted: 2y

@JFtheoverthinker_ I’m so sorry hun , I would say it’s definitely not cheating but I know that feeds the cycle . Try to sit with it and ignore his commentary cheating is only between what you and your husband think :)

Pepperonimuf...

Date posted: 4y

Whole worked *

Pepperonimuf...

Date posted: 4y

World * lord

ConnorSchep

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Logically I get that but just really it breaks my heart every time and makes me really scared I’m hurting her

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