liamb1407
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- 3y
Jesse MillerJesse Miller
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- 3y
We have all been there. You can be in a committed relationship and still think of others. OCD tricks you into believing that you don’t love your partner enough if you do. You need to sit with those feelings and give acceptance that you don’t have answers as to why you think of this other person or might have feelings for them. In no way does it mean you need to leave your relationship or confess to the thoughts.
liamb1407liamb1407
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- 3y
I’ve been really good with my ocd mainly rocd for about 5/6 weeks and I’ve hardly noticed it bc I worked hard treating it and this is the first time it’s spiked again
Jesse MillerJesse Miller
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@liamb1407 And that’s ok! Recovery is not linear. You will have times where you will struggle again, but take what you have learned and continue applying it during these times
liamb1407liamb1407
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@Jesse Miller Thank you for commenting I really appreciate it, it just feels so real and it’s scary
Jesse MillerJesse Miller
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@liamb1407 Yep! That’s the trick. It feels like you NEED to do something about it. When in reality, you could like that person and never tell a soul 🤷🏼♀️ OCD will make you think you need to confess
Marrkk18Marrkk18
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@Jesse Miller Good advice. I feel rlly bad for telling my gf all my thoughts bc I know if I was the one listening to those thoughts from my gf I’d be heartbroken. Do you personally think keeping it to ur self actually helps or is it more of just sum to do to keep you from hurting ur S/O
Jesse MillerJesse Miller
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@Marrkk18 I went through relationship OCD with my husband (we’re now separated). I would confess of thinking of others and constantly feel guilty. He would tell me it was no big deal and I think in my mind it was just a little relief. Like “oh thank god hes not upset”, but that was a compulsion and my OCD would still trick me after. I think sitting with the emotions for a little while before reflecting on why you have your thoughts is a lot better than constantly finding reassurance in your partner. At the end of the day, they will love you no matter what, but it’s good to not feed into your OCD.
PotatoChip21PotatoChip21
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I think the key thing to keep in mind for this is that if your in a LTR it is so normal to feel this way and it is way more common than you think. It is totally normal to find other people attractive, or to connect with others. I think where OCD really “latched on” in this situation is the idea that this is not “okay” or “normal”. OCD will make you think if you find them attractive, you must like them. You must want to be with them instead. There must be something “wrong” with your current relationship. But that just simply isn’t true. OCD loves to attach to the things you care about the most so if finding someone attractive threatens your relationship, that is what will create the obsessive thoughts around it and cause the endless cycle of worrying/rumination/checking/uncertainty. For me my biggest fear was this same thing, I obsessed about if I liked someone else Bc I simply didn’t want that to happen so it made me think about it 24/7 and was convincing me I had to leave my relationship because of it. But in reality, this is so normal.
PotatoChip21PotatoChip21
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Idk if that is helpful at all but ROCD is the absolute worst & I totally understand where you’re coming from. A lot of us with ROCD have the same obsessions so you’re not alone.
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