Does anyone constantly worry that their partner is cheating on them? I have never been cheated on before but I am constantly hit with these thoughts and it makes me very triggered anxious and depressed.

Relationship OCD

SunsetAquari...

Date posted: 4y

I deal with rocd but not with these exact thoughts. However, I went to one of the ROCD group sessions and there were a lot of people going through the same thing. You should think about attending one

Redyroo

Date posted: 4y

Are they free? Where do I attend them? I am new to this app

udon

Date posted: 4y

yes! in my first relationship and my current relationship (2nd) i experience obsessing about my partner cheating on me. and everything at first, especially in the beginning of my current relationship, triggered the shit out of me. eventually i was able to just give into the idea that im not gonna no for sure, so i might as well continue giving my all in the relationship. to which my rocd is triggered and has me questioning if he’s even worth it in the first place lol. its been a huge battle but i can definitely say continuing with mindfulness and erp and most importantly, self-compassion, has greatly improved my situation to be manageable. ngl i dont expect this sort of thing (ocd) to just go away, but im learning how to live a good life and make friends with fear and uncertainty. i totally feel you though, its exhausting and even heart breaking that you can’t fully enjoy time spent with your partner because of your doubt. no matter what be kind to yourself

Redyroo

Date posted: 4y

Yess! I feel like I can’t even enjoy it, in a way, it’s as though i’ve always got my guard up thinking that he’s cheating so that I don’t even have to be vulnerable with him. If I constantly believe he’s cheating, it means I don’t have to put myself at risk of getting hurt if you get me? It is completely exhausting and occasionally I will have moments where the doubt disappears and I finally enjoy it and it feels amazing to just not care but it always comes back after being triggered. I’ve found that paradoxically, one of my triggers is when he’s super loving and affectionate :( seems to be like I self sabotage our relationship when it’s going well

udon

Date posted: 4y

im going through the same thing right now!!! i had an episode a couple days ago after like a good two weeks of just being happy. my therapist says it could also be linked to my anxious attachment style as well, and looking into that has helped me gain some more compassion and understanding for myself. she also says that keeping your guard up doesnt make it any less painful, kinda like when you’re getting a shot and you tense up and it kinda just makes it hurt more. like yeah maybe you wont be caught with your pants down but you miss out on being in the moment, and thats what matters most i think. of course its easier said than done, and theres moments where it’s hard to believe in any of this (probably always gonna be) but i think we owe it to ourselves to make connections that help us and the other person grow. going through this is really difficult, but knowing we’re not alone in this helps :)

Hope

Date posted: 4y

I have this too you’re not alone

Redyroo

Date posted: 4y

I feel like there’s not a lot of info out there and I feel crazy with the thoughts. I thought it was ROCD but ROCD seems to be more concerned with other aspects

Redyroo

Date posted: 4y

I’m wondering if there is a way we can keep in contact so we can help each other when we become triggered

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