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As a really bad victim of rocd, I can confirm that it all passes. I thought I would never feel attraction to my bf ever again after getting this. But, I found that being happy with you relationship and not focusing on the thoughts help a lot. Live in the moment. Keep the thoughts to yourself and sit with them. I recently hangout with my boyfriend and we were cuddling in the couch. Wow! I never felt so much attraction! It's because I ignored my compulsions and moved on. Things have been pretty fantastic here on out. Again it doesn't last forever! Accept the thoughts as thoughts, and learn to respond to them in a good way! That's how I'm recovering from ROCD!
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Thank you, this shit is really horrible and I want it all to go away
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In this place too, you don't need to accept it, love is a choice, here for you friend ❤
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It makes me feel like I don’t even want to make the choice. It feels so different from the beginning
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@cozycat Ik, I know exactly how you feel, im in that exact same place. In the begging, I was desperately clamoring on to the relationship, now I'm numb and feel like I've found my truth, but please keep fighting friend. Don't lose what you love to this horrible horrible disease. ❤
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@cozycat You're ok, everything's okay, you're not alone
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My NOCD therapist said something helpful to me today regarding “feelings” - Feelings are subjective and when we make decisions based on them, we risk making emotional, rash decisions. She told me to make a pros and cons list. She also said to think more with “wise-mind” (that worksheet is really helpful, Idk if it’s an ocd standard one, but if you don’t know what I’m talking about, Google: wise mind worksheet)
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When I was a child, before I knew this was OCD, I struggled with constant "magical thinking" compulsions (don't step on the crack or mom's back will actually break, etc). When I later learned this was OCD, it almost immediately solved it. Any time I got a magical thought, I would say to myself "that's just an OCD thought. ignore it." and it just stopped coming! Like seriously it fixed the magical thinking stuff forever. But of course the OCD has resurfaced in other ways. So naturally, I've tried to use the same strategy since I had so much success with it previously. But I wonder sometimes if telling myself "that's just OCD" is almost functioning as a reassurance compulsion? I hate how meta this gets. For example, I have ROCD that comes and goes. So sometimes I'll get a thought like "what if i'm still in love with my ex?" and then I'll tell myself "that's obviously just an ROCD thought" and will feel relief, almost like reassurance. But it comes back. So is telling myself that it's OCD a reassurance compulsion ?? It's just so weird because it worked so perfectly as a kid with the magical thinking thing.
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- 18w
I keep getting these groinal responses when I think about kids or see one and it's really distressing, I only just learned that OCD can make you feel that and it's not actually attraction but it's so hard to remember that and I've seen people talking about accepting uncertainty but I'm so scared to think "maybe it's attraction maybe it's not" instead of "no it's not attraction that's disgusting" and idk what to do
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Does anyone have any advice for how to know the difference between ocd and real feelings/thoughts? Sometimes an intrusive thought will come in and I immediately know it’s ridiculous and I can just leave it alone and it won’t bother me but other times I really really don’t know. It’s when ocd hijacks and twists my real feelings and thoughts and tries to manipulate me into believing they’re something they’re not or something that doesn’t align with my true morals or intentions. But since it’s twisting and mixing with real feelings I get so confused and scared. Everything gets jumbled and I feel like I can’t trust myself or my own mind. Yet other times and other topics I can laugh off and push away just fine. Make it make sense. And then I start to think well maybe I don’t have ocd at all and I’m just in denial because I don’t want to accept that these scary/concerning things are true about myself. Or maybe that’s just the ocd talking.
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