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- Tolly537
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Also: STOP CHECKING. Its very hard, but you need to stop checking people for whether or not youre attracted to them or checking your reactions to porn. This is a huge compulsion and will only hurt you. Its very hard to resist but its something you have to learn to do.
There is a difference, but you are supposed to treat them the same. Labelling one as bad and one as good will only hurt you and make your ocd worse. One is a response due to the anxiety, but again, youre supposed to treat both as neutral.
I don’t know if this will help but I will share and hope it does. Try ( and I know this is hard) to say I might fall somewhere on the sexuality spectrum but it doesn’t matter because i love my current partner and I will not let a specific label dictate who I love or marry. I don’t have to identify as anything in particular to myself or anyone because I know I am happy with this Particular person whether it male or female. Basically don’t let the need for a label control your decisions. Hope that makes some sense? If it doesn’t completely disregard. Just know I’ve been there.
@gfaux im a straight guy with so ocd so i was wondering how it impacts u physically? Do you get the groinal sensations towards women?
@js94 i do, yes, but my body doesnt respond sexually to them. I.e. if i try to masturbate to the idea of a woman or her parts, i cant get erect or have any sexual progress. I do, however get groinals as theyre coupled with checking behaviours and anxiety. My symptoms however may not be synonymous with others though as everyones bodies and brains are different.
I didn't know we were supposed to treat them as the same thanks gfaux. Do u get any other physical reactions or sensations. I always get the sensation that someone is behind me doing sexual things to me
Oh i get tons. I dont even think i can list them all but i know theyre all symptoms of my oc and my anxiety
An important thing is accepting that its your ocd. When an intrusive thought comes into your mind, instead of debating it, notice that its there and let it sit there and float away on its own. The harder you fight it, the worse it will get and the more intrusive and graphic itll become. An important thing is to try and find a therapist who can lead you through ERP. ERP is exposure and response prevention, in which you are slowly exposed to what you fear and are denied doing your compulsions to make you feel better. You can look up self-help ERP, but many people find a therapist the best choice as self guided erp can sometimes be too much too soon. Its supposed to be stepped to gradually make you less afraid.
Right there with you. Im a gay guy with so-ocd. My brain is super hard on the "you just havent realized it yet. Keep trying and youll figure it out." Its horrible. Im in a relationship with the love of my life and i feel like im pissing the days away. Its terrible.
Same here.. :(
@gonzalmc no disrespect but that does not really help me. I don’t really care about or focus on labels I’m just scarred that I won’t be able to be with the sex/gender I prefer witch is with men. And I scares me thinking I would have to be with a women
Finally someone can tell me what is groinal responses??? I know what it is!!! but what is the difference from arouse , how are you sure what is happen?
Yeah it sucks. Any advice for me ? Seems like you have a good idea about dealing with obsessions and compulsions
I seriously have never thought about girls until now. It just never crossed my mind. I never liked or had feelings for a girl. And now that I’m constantly questioning everything and picturing everything. It just feels like I like it. It scares me, would I be happy with a girl ?? I don’t want to be with a girl but I feels like I do want this. It’s so confusing. I can’t tell whether this is actually ocd or I’m genuinely attracted to the same sex. I hate this so much !!! It’s like I just completely lost myself and questioned it so much I’ve just become lesbian but some things just don’t make sense. Why would I catch feelings for other boys? Never girls. I don’t know anymore. I’m happy with my boyfriend. Without these thoughts I’d be so good and so much more happy. Now I just don’t fucking know and this hurts so damn bad that I can’t just rest not one day. This is so damn stressful and hurtful to question your identity every single day. Sometimes I seriously just feel like I’m lesbian but I can’t seem to settle on that because I just can’t be. I want to just die. I hate what my mind is doing to me. I hate I have to go through these thoughts alone. I hate everything. I just want to crawl in a hole and never see anyone. I just want to hug my boyfriend and have my thoughts erased. I’ve thought too much and too deep I can’t stop. I’m crying from sadness because I don’t know what’s real anymore and I never in a million years thought this is something I’d have to deal with.
My hocd hasn’t been this bad in a while, I used to be able to ignore the thought, even though I knew I didn’t want it I was able to go along with my day without seeking much assurance. However for the past two days all I’ve been feeling is that it’s true and that I really am lesbian and that I’m only straight because of how I grew up, which I don’t want and I don’t think is true because all my crushes have been on boys and I have such a loving boyfriend that I’m so in love with and I don’t wanna let him go. I keep questioning why I enjoyed lesbian porn, why female moaning turns me on a little more than male moaning, why my friend and I experimented when we were really young (I was just around 7 and she introduced me to lesbian porn and we used to act it out sometimes & we’d always play king and queen and I’d always wanna be the queen but she never let me) <—— my tocd also uses that as proof... anyways, I’m so stuck, I’m struggling to see a normal straight life even though I want it so bad. I used to tell myself (I’m not homophobic so please no one take this the wrong way & am against the camp) that I would literally send myself to conversion camp if my thoughts are trying to display my truth and trying to tell me something. I feel like I’m living a lie. I hate this.
Finally, sexual orientation OCD has ruined my life. I’m fucking tired, really tired and I have been doing my erp exercises but it gets triggering every time I do it and I don’t know what to do about it. I always like boys and I always will but my sexual orientation fuck in OCD ruined it all all my life is ruined because of this shit I am not asking for reassurance, it’s getting harder and harder if I don’t do my erp exercises I am getting worse if I do do my exercises I’m getting even more worse and I fucking don’t know what to do about it. I’m tired of my OCD. Nobody wants to be my friend because of my OCD. Nobody even likes me not even a boy. I made a profile on a fucking dating app after reading my bio everyone just runs away thinking that I am a mad woman sometime honestly, I feel like giving up, but I won’t give up that easily, because I have a family that supports me even now while I’m writing this the OCD is playing with me and I do not know what to do. It’s getting harder and harder to cope PS I’m not thinking of doing anything to myself. I just wanted to get my thoughts out my urges it’s driving me crazy the images are forming in my head are driving me crazy
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