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Also: STOP CHECKING. Its very hard, but you need to stop checking people for whether or not youre attracted to them or checking your reactions to porn. This is a huge compulsion and will only hurt you. Its very hard to resist but its something you have to learn to do.
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- 6y ago
There is a difference, but you are supposed to treat them the same. Labelling one as bad and one as good will only hurt you and make your ocd worse. One is a response due to the anxiety, but again, youre supposed to treat both as neutral.
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- 6y ago
I don’t know if this will help but I will share and hope it does. Try ( and I know this is hard) to say I might fall somewhere on the sexuality spectrum but it doesn’t matter because i love my current partner and I will not let a specific label dictate who I love or marry. I don’t have to identify as anything in particular to myself or anyone because I know I am happy with this Particular person whether it male or female. Basically don’t let the need for a label control your decisions. Hope that makes some sense? If it doesn’t completely disregard. Just know I’ve been there.
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- 6y ago
@gfaux im a straight guy with so ocd so i was wondering how it impacts u physically? Do you get the groinal sensations towards women?
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- 6y ago
@js94 i do, yes, but my body doesnt respond sexually to them. I.e. if i try to masturbate to the idea of a woman or her parts, i cant get erect or have any sexual progress. I do, however get groinals as theyre coupled with checking behaviours and anxiety. My symptoms however may not be synonymous with others though as everyones bodies and brains are different.
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- 6y ago
I didn't know we were supposed to treat them as the same thanks gfaux. Do u get any other physical reactions or sensations. I always get the sensation that someone is behind me doing sexual things to me
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- 6y ago
Oh i get tons. I dont even think i can list them all but i know theyre all symptoms of my oc and my anxiety
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- 6y ago
An important thing is accepting that its your ocd. When an intrusive thought comes into your mind, instead of debating it, notice that its there and let it sit there and float away on its own. The harder you fight it, the worse it will get and the more intrusive and graphic itll become. An important thing is to try and find a therapist who can lead you through ERP. ERP is exposure and response prevention, in which you are slowly exposed to what you fear and are denied doing your compulsions to make you feel better. You can look up self-help ERP, but many people find a therapist the best choice as self guided erp can sometimes be too much too soon. Its supposed to be stepped to gradually make you less afraid.
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- 6y ago
Right there with you. Im a gay guy with so-ocd. My brain is super hard on the "you just havent realized it yet. Keep trying and youll figure it out." Its horrible. Im in a relationship with the love of my life and i feel like im pissing the days away. Its terrible.
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- 6y ago
Same here.. :(
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- 6y ago
@gonzalmc no disrespect but that does not really help me. I don’t really care about or focus on labels I’m just scarred that I won’t be able to be with the sex/gender I prefer witch is with men. And I scares me thinking I would have to be with a women
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- 6y ago
Finally someone can tell me what is groinal responses??? I know what it is!!! but what is the difference from arouse , how are you sure what is happen?
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- 6y ago
Yeah it sucks. Any advice for me ? Seems like you have a good idea about dealing with obsessions and compulsions
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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- 9w ago
Hi, I'm 17,about to be 18. I've been struggling with these thoughts for the past 8 months. I was wondering if someone experienced ever the same because I feel im "different". BACKGROUND: (I'm not diagnosed with Ocd but seeing a local counselor) About 9 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy S (who blackmailed, manipulated and molested me). Since then when I realized that what i did was very WRONG and so I started ruminating picking apart every single interaction and telling my boyfriend, i tried to remember every single detail because otherwise I felt like i was being a fraud and hiding things to save myself, i had many crisis about it because I had also what i think was false memory ocd. My boyfriend forgave me idk how tbh I still wonder. CURRENT STRUGGLE: Months ago I was sure I didn't wanna S in any way and i was sure even when everything happened. For the past 2 months tho I've been having thoughts like " Do I love S?" "I love S" "S is hot" "Would S find me hot?" "What if I want S?" " What if I don't love my boyfriend enough?" "What if I secretly want S?" "What if I see my boyfriend as a friend only?Do I?" And I tried testing my reaction to intimate scenarios with S, I'm scared I like it i dont really wanna love S or have any secret attraction, I wish I didn't have any of this and I want to be sure of my feelings for my boyfriend because I know I wanna be with him and I see a future with him like he brings me comfort. But a part of me keeps trying to convince me otherwise. Sometimes I think I'd rather die than have these thoughts. Im so scared of not being able to control my feelings, im scared I can't resist S and its giving me anxiety and making me cry. Sometimes when i think of those sexual scenarios with S or I get those thoughts my mind tells me to smile because i like it because I find it funny. It makes me doubt myself all over again. Like I'm always like I need to test if I'd feel aroused to intimate scenarios with S, lately im trying to fight this urge to test and test but my mind is like "just do it this once so you can be sure. I can never watch anything romantic or sexual or whatever because my mind would be like "you and S" or sometimes I'm just enjoying time with my bf and im like " yes we can just have a sneaky cheating thing thats ok" and it makes me want to figure it out to find an answer a solution because idk it just does like I need to find the meaning of it if it means the truth and all. Im worried im just an awful person and these thoughts just ruin my quality of life . Today i had a crisis where i ended up doinf swlf harm, I'm so scared of finding someone that's not my boyfriend desirable or sexual appealing or whatever it is, I also have bodily reactions when I try to imagine and test my reaction to scenarios. Now i keep groing everytime and I dont know why but i have this sensation and I dont want to havebit especially when its something S related. Does someone experience the same thoughts? Am I alone in this? Is this ROCD? What should i do?
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