Did you guys also lose the infatuation since the thoughts started?

I heard that if you are really stressed out (which is a symptom of ocd) and you try to feel something then you can't feel it anymore bc you kind of force it in that moment. I think it's ocd but unfortunately we can't know for sure and we have to embrace the uncertainty. Maybe if we overcome the anxiety then we can see a little bit clearer. For that we have to unfortunately face the fear, I guess. It's so hard! Thank you for your answer! It's alway good to know that we are not alone :)

@samysam You're welcome! Yesss you are absolutely right. If you ask yourself if you feel something, or if you want/try to force yourself to feel, you will never feel it. And the absence of feelings I think that lead to anxiety. I WONDER, if that can work also with anxiety though! What if I want to feel anxious? Would I feel nothing or would I feel more anxious because I can't feel anxiety?? Just joking around ahhahah

@Saraa Hahahahah I wished it would work on anxiety as well! But it's probably the opposite, we DONT want to feel anxious and feel even more anxious. How do you deal with the ocd? Do you use the exposure therapy? Bc i am still working on the fear underneath my ocd. What am I afraid of and so on

@samysam HHAHAHA I guess it is worth trying! when next I will feel my thought out of control I will search for anxiety. Let's see what happens! Okay, I'm still working on it, and it Is still very hard sometimes. I follow therapy with my psychologist, where I try to live my life of everdays, without gave importance to the doubts or the bad answers. I have anxiety pretty much in everything in the relationship, so every time I see my boyfriend is like doing exposure. And for now; I have to choose between cry for half hour (to release stress, I probably shouldn't do it, my therapis thate it but it is what work the best) and than enjoy the rest of the date or stay in a bad mood for all the time. Sometimes I am really really close to run away form everything; because the thought of me stuck in a situation like that for a long time is too much. And also, I probably have a mechanism of sabotaging myself in everything that I feel pleasure! But I sill don't have understood what are the fears that put up everything. It is okay; it is an unconscious thing and I'm trying to do everything I can. So yes, I feel and understand you, but I'm probably not the right person to ask for advices on how to keep going! I would need those too😔🥲

@Saraa Wow, I know exactly how you feel. Seeing my boyfriend today is like major exposure for me and I am already anxious about it. For me it's the same, I have to talk with him about everything that bothers me (probably reassurance) or I will be in a constant state of anxiety with him. So I really understand your struggle. I feel like I will never be better, it is so frustrating bc i also heard that ocd can shift and I am so afraid that if I can overcome the Rocd, I will get another theme of ocd. It feels so hopeless :(

@samysam Yes! EXACTLY! I have to do this, and I had done this for too much too! When I share all my doubts with my half, i stop being anxious about them and I have some peace! But trust me STOP DOING IT! If that give you some rest, will start to put real doubts in him!!! I tell you because already happend me twice, than the second boy came back! And i' very happy about that! But sometimes I still do this, and I'm really scared to push him again! And because of that I started usino this app! Now i wrote here, and I always find someone that feel in the same way... so it must be just ocd! Is important to not share with him your doubts. Sorry if I repeat myself, or if i'm being tragiche, but really, it will ruin everything!! The first boy left me because "you always said that I don't love you, you make it true!". I always thoughts that it was just an excuse, but when I started therapy; that make me realise that is not!

But i told him my condition and that specific things make me anxious like when I'm getting when we don't have a good topic to talk about and it makes me think that maybe we are not a good fit. Is that also reassurance? Bc my therapist said sometimes you can get reassurance when it's a new thought and you just dont know if it is normal. Like just one time and then if the thoughts come again then no reassurance bc you already know that it is normal. Do you know what I mean? Bc he is also very understanding. I understand that constant reassurance is bad but let's say you don't know that it is normal that you find other men attractive even if you are in a relationship and someone tells you that, then that thought doesn't make you as anxious anymore. I am a little bit confused about the prohibition of reassurance. Like for example, I now know that the lack of infatuation comes from my Rocd, so now it doesn't make me as anxious as before.