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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
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- ChristineKJ ChristineKJ
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Humans are sexual beings. Unfortunately, our bodies do the sexual acceleration much before our brains step in to do the breaking. Noncondordence is something women experience 9/10 times, men 5/10 times. Meaning, 90% of the time, a woman's body is just responding to sexual content regardless of her brains preference and for men that happens 50% of the time. It's important to be mindful of that when dealing with OCD. You don't want to remind yourself compulsively as this can make things worse, but understanding your body is just doing what it does and letting the thoughts move through and accepting any groinal or arousal responses as they come.
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- cmariacmaria
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Whilst I have read this before and it's super helpful it's also so triggering. As a bisexual woman with a man I love and with slightly more sexual attraction to women than men and more romantic attraction towards men, I am now thinking oh god, what if I am actually gay and my sexual feelings towards men is part of this nonconcordance, not 'real' arousal. I love having sex with men and crave it when I am looking at content of men, so perhaps this answers my question, but it still makes me spiral.
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- ingrid <3ingrid <3
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Don’t try to reduce it or change it- usuallt, when that happens, your heartbeat starts pulsing and you start worrying too. Let that die down. Over repetition, you’re body is going to be neutral to it, which will reduce the distress over and over again. Remember- a big part of recovery is to make your quality of life increase, not to necessarily only get rid of things you don’t want at the moment.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
But I only get aeoused by men but I don’t want to be gay
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- ingrid <3ingrid <3
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Who knows why that is- if you keep on obsessing, you aren’t going to get better.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I think I only get aroused by men so how is this ocd
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Could it be ocd @ingrid
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- ingrid <3ingrid <3
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yes, it could.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Can it create arousal
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- ingrid <3ingrid <3
- Date posted
- 3y ago
This seems like reassurance, which is a compulsion and makes OCD worse.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
😭
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- TonyOCD
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Can anyone relate to having HOCD thlughts (or any form of sexual orientation OCD) and getting aroused by them? I don't mean a groinal response (tingles, twinges, etc.) or arousal-non concordance (when you're groing get's aroused but your mind doesn't), or confusing stress with arousal... I literally mean getting aroused (both mentally and physiologically) by unwanted thoughts in repeated occasions (frequently) when you test yourself? Basically like if it was a sexual fantasy, with the exception that it's a torture that you have found through compulsions. I never wanted to think any of this and I still hate and wouldn't do any of the content of my thoughts. But this happens to me and makes me feel SOOOOO in denial and anxious even though I've never had sex, interest, attraction or desires for a man (or a transexual, which is my other HOCD topic).
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- doglover336
- Date posted
- 4y ago
How do people continue to have intimacy and pleasure with Pure O (with themes that centre around sexual intrusive thoughts)? I haven’t had sex in a very long time but I obviously want to.... I’m struggling to figure out how to approach intimacy again. I can’t even pleasure myself without my OCD acting up. Please share some tips and stories!
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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Look I have soocd and I feel arousal when I check or test with thoughts about the same sex I really don’t feel aeousal for women I think this isn’t normal for ocd is there any advice anyone could give on this topic please anything would help
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