Anonymous
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- 3y
ChristineKJ ChristineKJ
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- 3y
Humans are sexual beings. Unfortunately, our bodies do the sexual acceleration much before our brains step in to do the breaking. Noncondordence is something women experience 9/10 times, men 5/10 times. Meaning, 90% of the time, a woman's body is just responding to sexual content regardless of her brains preference and for men that happens 50% of the time. It's important to be mindful of that when dealing with OCD. You don't want to remind yourself compulsively as this can make things worse, but understanding your body is just doing what it does and letting the thoughts move through and accepting any groinal or arousal responses as they come.
cmariacmaria
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- 3y
Whilst I have read this before and it's super helpful it's also so triggering. As a bisexual woman with a man I love and with slightly more sexual attraction to women than men and more romantic attraction towards men, I am now thinking oh god, what if I am actually gay and my sexual feelings towards men is part of this nonconcordance, not 'real' arousal. I love having sex with men and crave it when I am looking at content of men, so perhaps this answers my question, but it still makes me spiral.
ingrid <3ingrid <3
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- 3y
Don’t try to reduce it or change it- usuallt, when that happens, your heartbeat starts pulsing and you start worrying too. Let that die down. Over repetition, you’re body is going to be neutral to it, which will reduce the distress over and over again. Remember- a big part of recovery is to make your quality of life increase, not to necessarily only get rid of things you don’t want at the moment.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y
But I only get aeoused by men but I don’t want to be gay
ingrid <3ingrid <3
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- 3y
Who knows why that is- if you keep on obsessing, you aren’t going to get better.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y
I think I only get aroused by men so how is this ocd
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y
Could it be ocd @ingrid
ingrid <3ingrid <3
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- 3y
Yes, it could.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y
Can it create arousal
ingrid <3ingrid <3
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- 3y
This seems like reassurance, which is a compulsion and makes OCD worse.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y
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