BradOCD
- Date posted
- 3y
Brian K.Brian K.
- User type
- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 3y
Hi BradOCD, it’s because you love that your OCD bully knows you won’t ignore it when it fills you with doubt about your relationship, or your love for her. Remember that you are not your intrusive thoughts. If you love your girlfriend and you know it, so what if you have those intrusive thoughts, they don’t define you, just try to let them pass out of your mind as quickly as they entered it. Chances are if you left your girl because your OCD made you doubt your relationship that after you broke up that same OCD would make you doubt whether you should have broken up with her. It will never be happy as long as you respond to it. Try to tell those intrusive thoughts “so what”….so what if you have intrusive thoughts about guys or girls other then your girlfriend, they are all just thoughts you didn’t ask for and just your OCD trying to get your attention and make you feed it more doubt and anxiety. No relationship is ever perfect or free of even some doubt at some point, our OCD just likes to exploit that and make us dwell and intensify that doubt to the nth degree because it knows we most likely will respond to it because it involves whom we care about most. Has something changed recently to intensify these intrusive thoughts making you feel as if you have no choice but to leave to spare her feelings?
BradOCDBradOCD
- Date posted
- 3y
Well I’ve just looked so deep into my past it feels as if there might be some logic behind what my ocd is telling me?
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Anonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 24w
Pls I need advice
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
MM311
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 13w
relationship ocd?
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
Mags2002
- Date posted
- 10w
Soocd: need some response , is this even ocd?
I really dont know if it is ocd anymore I dont want certain sexual things with my bf anymore that i used to like When i envision it with a girl it is so easy to envision and it feels like i want that , that will give me the satisfaction This feeling is making me really question if i am still into men , desire men sexually Is this still ocd , i really dont know anymore , as it is a feeling it is too real
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